Pregnancy 40+

[Sockpuppet]

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

Tell her to have it done then.

[TykeMerc]

WHS. Fast forward 18yrs, when you/your missus is 60 you'll still be funding the offspring through university. When I'm 55 my youngest will have just left and I'll be taking my 25% tax free pension.

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

I had it done when my youngest son was 2 years old.

My sister had twin girls when she was 40, I must admit I don't envy her having children at that age. My eldest was born when I was 25 and my youngest when I was 31, while the first was somewhat unplanned on balance I prefer the idea of them all finishing education long before I'm at state retirement age.

[Peoplesoft bloke]

My missus is about to turn 40 and she is talking about a second baby.

I know the risks are much greater.

trying to stay positive but statisics tell me otherwise...

Anyone's missus had a baby over 40? all good?

We recently had our first - I'm 46 and she had the child days before her 40th birthday. Hearing all the stuff about risks and lack of fertility, we were really concerned. We were very fortunate in that the pregnancy and birth went well and the conception was way easier than the stats would have you believe.

Of course I will be old when my kid's still in education, but not much I can do about that now - I have wanted children since my 30s - I just spent too much time married to the wrong woman and too much time getting divorced and meeting someone else to have had a proper chance before now.

Our experience has been 100% positive and encouraging.

[cailin maith]

We recently had our first - I'm 46 and she had the child days before her 40th birthday. Hearing all the stuff about risks and lack of fertility, we were really concerned. We were very fortunate in that the pregnancy and birth went well and the conception was way easier than the stats would have you believe.

Of course I will be old when my kid's still in education, but not much I can do about that now - I have wanted children since my 30s - I just spent too much time married to the wrong woman and too much time getting divorced and meeting someone else to have had a proper chance before now.

Our experience has been 100% positive and encouraging.

Hear, hear..... sometimes life happens ass about face, but you know what.... thats sometimes how it all works out.

[NotAllThere]

WHS. Fast forward 18yrs, when you/your missus is 60 you'll still be funding the offspring through university. When I'm 55 my youngest will have just left and I'll be taking my 25% tax free pension.

Talking of the snip, who's had one then? (Missus M is currently harping on at me about this).

Had mine at 31. After three kids. Seemed a lot safer than missus having her tubes tied. Had it done on a Friday at a private clinic for about £200 total. Couple of beers after the op, which went well with the happy pills they gave me. (Wife driving) Spent the weekend on intimate terms with packets of frozen peas. Went to work on Monday (60 mile commute), everything fine until I got to the client site and remembered... the ramps... over them oh-so-slowly. Was walking around work a little like Clint Eastwood for a day. Otherwise no problems and no regrets.

I've friend ten years older than me, who's kids are 2 and 5.

When I'm 55, my kids will be 27, 29 and 33.

[moorfield]

Tell her to have it done then.

She's had 3 c-sections, so unsurprisingly I'm losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

[NotAllThere]

She's had 3 c-sections, so I'm not unsurprisingly losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

It does happen sometimes, I'm sure. Especially if you use a clinic like this. http://www.users.bigpond.net.au/simatt/vasectomy.jpg ( reasonable sfw, but might make your eyes water ).

[TimberWolf]

When I'm 55, my kids will be 27, 29 and 33.

When your son is aged your year of birth (YY), you will be aged his year of birth (YY). Plus 100 if he was born this century, so good luck achieving that.

[TykeMerc]

She's had 3 c-sections, so unsurprisingly I'm losing the argument on this one.

Heard some nasty rumours/stories about swelling testicles.

I had no symptoms of note, drove home from the op which was done under local, I don't recall what the op cost but 95% sure it was sub £200.
Op on Friday morning, back at work Monday quite comfortably apart from the odd twinge. The stitches from a minor op I had this Tuesday have given me more gyp and discomfort than the vasectomy gave me and that didn't even need a stitch.