Reply to: People Crying at work

[MarillionFan]

I went back into work after the weekend when my daughter nearly died 8 years ago. It was a shocking weekend.

I found myself getting upset during the middle of the day, so took myself off into the toilets, choked back a couple of tears before going back out and punching out the PM.

[GlenW]

When someone goes off or gets sacked or is terminated, my initial thought is can I have his monitor if it's better than mine....

Already did that at where I am now, gave me a warm feeling at the time knowing I was being positive and forward thinking.

[stek]

People Crying at work

Seeing other people crying at work does offer the hope of an extension to cover them going to a loony bin for a while. Every cloud and all that.

When someone goes off or gets sacked or is terminated, my initial thought is can I have his monitor if it's better than mine....

[vwdan]

I've never cried at work, but I was taking care of some little bits left over from a large virtualisation project when the SAN threw a hissy fit. The root cause was **** all to do with me, but I was the only representative on-site and there was a moment when I very seriously considered simply packing up and leaving.

[RasputinDude]

The problem actually stems from a bullying culture if you dig deep enough.

Spot on - mistakes happen through lack of experience; experience comes from making mistakes. People should be allowed to make mistakes with sufficiently rigorous procedure in place to ensure that the mistakes aren't catastrophic.

[original PM]

You mean like being sacked on the spot or walked off site? Yeah, I could see those consequences probably would have more of an effect compared to the thought of failing!

Yes but if you do not encourage an environment where people can try and fail in a controlled environment then everyone sees that the crime is not to try and to fail but not to try at all.

However the execs who put the pressure on seem to have forgotten about all their failures (or have used their mates to cover them up).

The problem actually stems from a bullying culture if you dig deep enough.

[FatLazyContractor]

Seeing other people crying at work does offer the hope of an extension to cover them going to a loony bin for a while. Every cloud and all that.

That's the real tough Northern way son!

[GlenW]

Seeing other people crying at work does offer the hope of an extension to cover them going to a loony bin for a while. Every cloud and all that.

[turbowoowoo]

It does make you take stock and reflect.

How much pressure on people is acceptable?

Some may break quicker than others, so I think its a matter of constantly reviewing situations, but at the end of the day is getting so worked up worth it?>

My health is more important to me, but luckily I can switch off from work and work issues as soon as my laptop does..

[d000hg]

I bet SY01 and PC see a lot of crying at work, especially when they announce renewals*.














*I don't know if that ever happens to Suity actually?

[vetran]

Would NLUK cry at work?

only if NLYUK forgets the lube!

[GlenW]

Would NLUK cry at work?

Yes, but in a very non-IR35 sort of way.

[FatLazyContractor]

Would NLUK cry at work?

[RasputinDude]

anyone seen similar? is there a trend developing?

Sadly, I have seen something similar. Is there a trend developing? Probably, yes. In times of economic uncertainty people struggle - relationships fail under stress; worry and doubt about self-worth and perceived value can take a huge emotional toil and tiny little things can be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

I had a gig where I saw one (perm) guy once just break down as he was making a coffee. I spent a few days after that making sure that he was ok (which mostly involved listening to him) as no-one else in clientco was vaguely interested in the health and wellbeing of their colleague.

All this machismo about big boys don't cry etc is bull tulipe - men are terrible at talking about problems and dealing with stress - largely because they have been socially conditioned to believe that real men don't cry - and it is no wonder that the biggest cause of death to young men is suicide.

[BolshieBastard]

What I have found is that is not so much the fact that people may fail it is because they are scared of the consequences of failing which cause the emotional response.

You mean like being sacked on the spot or walked off site? Yeah, I could see those consequences probably would have more of an effect compared to the thought of failing!