Reply to: Conflict with permanent staff members

[GlenW]

"STFU you nob!" has always worked for me.

[MarillionFan]

It's too late to do that.

Any loud offence/punching someone in the face needs to be done there and then otherwise it's premeditated.

WSH. Cosh on the back of the head, into the boot of the car and then buried in a field. Spur of a moment thing.

[SueEllen]

<MF> Just punch him in the face and be done with it. </MF>

It's too late to do that.

Any loud offence/punching someone in the face needs to be done there and then otherwise it's premeditated.

[moggy]

There's something rather creepy about that pic.

would you though?

[Mich the Tester]

Public Sector and jokes ? are you sure.
When I did worked in the Council there was a guy sacked on the spot and frog marched off the premises because a girl took offence to his rude manner.
He apparently showed a rude pic to her?
From what I heard it was him gardening with his builders bum showing... thats all

like this:
...picture of weirdo...

There's something rather creepy about that pic.

[DiscoStu]

<MF> Just punch him in the face and be done with it. </MF>

[CloudWalker]

Public Sector and jokes ? are you sure.
When I did worked in the Council there was a guy sacked on the spot and frog marched off the premises because a girl took offence to his rude manner.
He apparently showed a rude pic to her?
From what I heard it was him gardening with his builders bum showing... thats all

like this:

[oscarose]

Taking offence is ALWAYS a choice.

Well said that man.

[d000hg]

I was absolutely disgusted by what he said today and I'm pretty sure I am going to report him to the manager tomorrow

Why wouldn't/didn't you challenge him on it first? A "that's going too far" might be all that's needed rather than tattling without any warning first.

[Unix]

So making jokes about blacks would prevent me from becoming a racist?

No, racism is taught whereas sexual desire is innate.

[SpontaneousOrder]

So making jokes about blacks would prevent me from becoming a racist?

Apples and oranges.

[Eirikur]

Why are jokes bad? It's obvious they are jokes. Comedy should be able to cross all boundaries and have no censorship. Maybe for this guy making jokes about rape prevents him from actually raping someone.

So making jokes about blacks would prevent me from becoming a racist?

[SpontaneousOrder]

Why are jokes bad? It's obvious they are jokes. Comedy should be able to cross all boundaries and have no censorship. Maybe for this guy making jokes about rape prevents him from actually raping someone.

Even if they are bad - who cares? Don't socialise with him. Tell him you think it's bad if you really want to.
Unless the nature of this rapey joking is much more serious than the OP makes clear (i.e. if it's personal especially) then telling HR or whoever is akin to those utter cretins who get kids arrested for saying hurtful things on twitter.

I.e. - get a life for goodness sake. You're a guest at ClientCo - leave it to the permies to complain.

Taking offence is ALWAYS a choice.

[Unix]

Why are jokes bad? It's obvious they are jokes. Comedy should be able to cross all boundaries and have no censorship. Maybe for this guy making jokes about rape prevents him from actually raping someone.

[TheCyclingProgrammer]

You are a contractor, why are you bantering with permies ? Do you also go camping with them and share some donuts ?

Quite, doesn't OP know that banter with permies is an automatic -10 points on the IR35 BETs?