Still on bench and might have to sleep on it as well

[d000hg]

How come you can be thrown out - is house/mortgage in her name?

[MPwannadecentincome]

How come you have to pay the mortgage?

It does get better, keep in there.

Cuz she don't work so cannae pay and I don't want to lose the house just cuz I am on bench for a few weeks.

Besides my lawyer told me it was in my interest to pay it....

[MPwannadecentincome]

How come you can be thrown out - is house/mortgage in her name?

cuz divorce proceedings are in place and I said I would move out when I got a gig, she is impatient and went to lawyers to complain that I hadn't moved out and they issued threatening letters (summary of events I really don't want to go into detail ;-) )

[AtW]

Cuz she don't work so cannae pay and I don't want to lose the house just cuz I am on bench for a few weeks.

Sounds like you've already lost it

The fair way to deal with it would be for both parties to move out from the house.

[EternalOptimist]

sh!it mate. good luck in this horrible situation

[mudskipper]

Sounds like you've already lost it

The fair way to deal with it would be for both parties to move out from the house.

Depends if there's kids involved. Kids need a home.

[AtW]

Depends if there's kids involved. Kids need a home.

Leave kids at home and get Mary Poppins to look after them whilst the wife is smarting up in a cheap hotel...

AtW in "divorce preventing" mode!

[MPwannadecentincome]

Depends if there's kids involved. Kids need a home.

Yup kids involved - women kids law - man loses

[mudskipper]

Yup kids involved - women kids law - man loses

You hear this a lot and I'm sure that the law does favour women in these situations, probably because it's still true that in the majority of families the woman is the primary caregiver, so that's the underlying assumption. As you've said your wife doesn't work, I'm guessing this is the case with you too, and, that if you're in contract, you'd probably struggle to have sole responsibility for the kids too.

I have a male friend who got custody of his kids so it does happen.

If you got the house and the kids, and your wife moved out, would you feel you'd won?

(Not intending to have a go, genuinely curious if that's a situation you'd consider to be better)

[bobspud]

You hear this a lot and I'm sure that the law does favour women in these situations, probably because it's still true that in the majority of families the woman is the primary caregiver, so that's the underlying assumption. As you've said your wife doesn't work, I'm guessing this is the case with you too, and, that if you're in contract, you'd probably struggle to have sole responsibility for the kids too.

I have a male friend who got custody of his kids so it does happen.

If you got the house and the kids, and your wife moved out, would you feel you'd won?

(Not intending to have a go, genuinely curious if that's a situation you'd consider to be better)

Thats the problem. The whole thing is racked around who wins. No one does, its a transition that is supposed to protect the welfare of the children and compensate the wife for the extra effort of looking after the kids and the potential sacrifice of salary for her doing so.

The only winner is the lawmakers that rile up the party and profit on the way out of the door...

The guy is already conceding the house and yet his ex is wasting money being a bitch with a lawyer. She seems to be lucky that the PM is trying to be nice. If I was in his situation I would stay on JSA and let the whole thing fall around her ears...