Cash missing... suspect cleaner... how to handle?

[d000hg]

I'm not the angry type

[adubya]

No action and she'll just move on and fleece some other poor schmuck

[doodab]

All it takes for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing.

It might be tempting to think you're doing the right thing by "forgiving" her but you're doing a disservice to her next victim if you fail to report her. Which is the lesser evil?

[d000hg]

But would reporting her make her stop? Petty thieves don't generally ever stop do they?

It's our full intention to report the matter to her boss but beyond that we're not sure. Yet.

[mudskipper]

But would reporting her make her stop? Petty thieves don't generally ever stop do they?

It's our full intention to report the matter to her boss but beyond that we're not sure. Yet.

It depends. If she's never been caught before, she may be so ashamed at being caught that she does stop. If she's been caught before, unlikely. But I guess that goes for whether you tell her boss or the police.

[d000hg]

5.57am?

[mudskipper]

Son catches school bus at 6:45 - I have to allow a good hour to become functional enough to run him to the bus stop.

[mudskipper]

So what happened? What did the agency say?

[d000hg]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...

[IR35FanClub]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...

I think its the right course of action, not all of the people she cleans for will have an ipad knocking around to catch her, but may have suspected it. For all anyone knows cleaning may only be her side job, which gets her access to properties to hoover up the cash lying around!

You dont need to press charges, but get her a caution so if she does get caught again it will not be so simple to ignire. Im sorry but theft is theft, regardless of the income of the person stealing, most cleaners are honest and dont feel the need to steal.

Its not even like its some corporate stock losses from someone working minimum wage in retail, this is personal theft from your home, your wallet! Would anyone be so forgiving if a pickpocket knabbed £10 and then slipped the wallet back in your pocket!