War Chest and divorce

[BlasterBates]

You see this is what happens when you give women the vote.

[Scoi]

My lawyers advice was that as it's classed as a short marriage, the baseline of any settlement is that we are returned to where we started and any addition to the joint possessions are split evenly during the marriage. Which will be pretty much sod all as everything we earned was spent on the wedding and honeymoon. Any income post separation (date needs to be proved) should be ignored. Perfect scenario for me.

But, apparently, in a minority of cases, things can be argued in court which is what i'm trying to avoid. We have to give full and frank disclosure of finances and i'm concerned that seeing a nice war chest will spur her on for a long drawn out and expensive fight only for both of us to walk out with a big legal bill which will probably be the size of said war chest.

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But, apparently, in a minority of cases, things can be argued in court which is what i'm trying to avoid. We have to give full and frank disclosure of finances and i'm concerned that seeing a nice war chest will spur her on for a long drawn out and expensive fight only for both of us to walk out with a big legal bill which will probably be the size of said war chest.

Nah, it would be bigger than that and include whatever you add to it over the period of the fight.

My advice would be to try and find out what she wants (in £££) to walk away, give her it and get on with your life.

[vetran]

The contract we signed, when the house was sold I would get the 20% of value as I invested 20%. The bank was paid, then the balance was split 50 - 50.

As it turned out this meant he got all the money he paid in back, but no profit. He saw all the money I got as profit.

What he didn't see was, if I had not put the money down and got the loan, we would be renting and he would have got none of his money back.

But he was very sweet about ending things, I went to stay with a friend for a few days (we were fighting too much) he changed the locks. Then he moved his new gf and her 2 kids in, class.

Lucky I didn't marry him.

Ah that makes more sense, seems fair when explained.

Nice move, I can see why you might be a little angry with him.

As you say lucky escape.

[BrilloPad]

You see this is what happens when you give women the vote.

A bigger issue is the 1969 divorce act which went as badly wrong the other way as the previous law.

The 1989 Children Act corrected this - but was ignored by the family courts.

Things are getting better now - mostly due to younger judges with a higher percentage of women. Its the older judges, composed mostly of men, who are the issue.

The younger ones understand that women don't just look after kids - they work too.

[alreadypacked]

Ah that makes more sense, seems fair when explained.

Nice move, I can see why you might be a little angry with him.

As you say lucky escape.

When you are angry with someone, you see things differently, money is just another weapon.

That's why I say, you need to sort out your anger first, money is not the problem.

[BrilloPad]

When you are angry with someone, you see things differently, money is just another weapon.

That's why I say, you need to sort out your anger first, money is not the problem.

+1. I often find that love and hate are very close together. These days I am totally ambivalent toward my ex - my days of calling her the BFH are over.

Except to wind up the twins that is! Occasionally I hurl a volley of insults about her while the twins are listening. They get upset. I laugh at them. Suckers!

[Mich the Tester]

+1. I often find that love and hate are very close together. These days I am totally ambivalent toward my ex - my days of calling her the BFH are over.

Big Fat Harlot?

[mudskipper]

Big Fat Harlot?

Bitch from Hell?

BFH to me is the large hill at Ipsden between Wallingford and Reading. Attempted it on Saturday with a pannier full of text books and failed. Embarrassingly, an older gentleman jogged past me pushing my bike.

[speling bee]

Bitch from Hell?

BFH to me is the large hill at Ipsden between Wallingford and Reading. Attempted it on Saturday with a pannier full of text books and failed. Embarrassingly, an older gentleman jogged past me pushing my bike.

You shouldn't let elderly gents push your bike up the hill.