Wilmslow-esque whinge: Friends who don't understand our ways of working

[MarillionFan]

Also, FWIW, I agree with the OP that some of the little comments are annoying, usually from Permies rather than friends. I don't think any of my friends give a hoot what I earn, in the same way that I don't care what they earn.

My advice would be to replace the faulty friends (c:

I did feel a little embarrassed when my brother in law turned up last week with his family. He's not the jealous type & we're quite open with each other but I know he saved three months to buy a 2nd hand mountain bike a while back and when he turned up I had three in the garage, brand new TV in the front room, IPad, Iphones, wireless printers in three rooms & a host of other toot. He spent ages playing with gadgets & stuff & to be fair never said a word, insisting he paid for the beers & food when he went out as they were guests.

Think I'll get him an IPad for his birthday. After all, it's only 1/2 a days wages.

[suityou01]

Yes.

"It bugs me".

"It bugs my wife and me".

"It bugs me and my wife".

So in this case "wife and me" form the object of the verb bug. I may have to concede this point.

[Bacchus]

So you and Zeity are saying

"My wife and me" is correct?

It's quite a simple rule - leave the other party out and see how the sentence sounds, if CM hadn't included the wife in his opening sentence it would have read

I know this has been discussed here before but it's now really starting to bug I.

Which would have made no sense

Put it into another context - say

Me and the wife went shopping

Leave out the wife and you get

Me went shopping

Which even a 'tard should be able to see is cobblers

HTH

[The Spartan]

I tend not to discuss what I earn as I'd no doubt get the same reaction, my family is even worse in that they're always trying pry and get out of me what I earn and I hear the old comments I bet you're not short of a few bob on a regular basis.

I work hard for my money and it's nobodies business what I earn, like you said the nature of work is temporary and can change quite swiftly and there are of course a lot more other factors to take into consideration.

[suityou01]

I did feel a little embarrassed when my brother in law turned up last week with his family. He's not the jealous type & we're quite open with each other but I know he saved three months to buy a 2nd hand mountain bike a while back and when he turned up I had three in the garage, brand new TV in the front room, IPad, Iphones, wireless printers in three rooms & a host of other toot. He spent ages playing with gadgets & stuff & to be fair never said a word, insisting he paid for the beers & food when he went out as they were guests.

Think I'll get him an IPad for his birthday. After all, it's only 1/2 a day's wages.

Zeity?

[Bacchus]

Back this up please.

actually the doughnut was uncalled for, so I can't...

I'll put it down to hunger (c:

[suityou01]

I tend not to discuss what I earn as I'd no doubt get the same reaction, my family is even worse in that they're always trying pry and get out of me what I earn and I hear the old comments I bet you're not short of a few bob on a regular basis.

I work hard for my money and it's nobodies business what I earn, like you said the nature of work is temporary and can change quite swiftly and there are of course a lot more other factors to take into consideration.

Zeity?

[cojak]

So in this case "wife and me" form the object of the verb bug. I may have to concede this point.

Unless you are a West Country yokel who actually uses the term "it bugs I".

[suityou01]

It's quite a simple rule - leave the other party out and see how the sentence sounds, if CM hadn't included the wife in his opening sentence it would have read



Which would have made no sense

Put it into another context - say



Leave out the wife and you get



Which even a 'tard should be able to see is cobblers

HTH

I already conceded the point. Which even a 'tard' should be able to see is unarguable.

[Scrag Meister]

Yes.

"It bugs me".

"It bugs my wife and me".

"It bugs me and my wife".

It would seem from this link that it is me in this instance.

On topic, I don't discuss rates with anyone that isn't directly involved in the process. My sponsoring manager, the guy in the VM dept, my agent.

Even my wife only gets a rare glimpse of the figures.