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    #41
    I had a good friend like that.

    Everything was me, me, me with him and his level of insecurity was epic.

    Whenever we would go out in a group of friends, he always took the piss out of people in the group just to make himself look good - particularly if we were talking to females.

    I've lost count of the number of times he said in-appropriate things at events in front of people we had just met due to his lack of social skills and constant craving for attention and need to be seen as funny.

    When he split from his girlfriend of a few months he was feeling very low and would constantly call his friends to meet up and within a few minutes the "dark cloud" would appear and the rest of the evening would be spent telling everyone his tales of woe again. Any advice given would be dismissed/ignored - it was always someone elses fault, never his.

    In the end, I had enough but rather than stop contacting him, it came to a head on a lads holiday a few years ago where I blurted out what a c0ck he was.

    Bad move - I played right into his hands as he portrayed himself as being the victim - yet again.

    I don't have any contact with him now but we still have the same mutual friends and I know, when I do meet up with them, that since my outburst he has given them a forensic account of that episode and spun it so that he was the victim and I was the aggressor.

    Thing is, most of our mutual friends feel exactly the same way about him as I do, yet they still humour him which, I think, is the worst thing you can do as it re-enforces his behaviour.

    That said, best thing I ever did was cutting him out of my life as I no longer have to put up with his sh!t and can laugh when we are at events and I can see our mutual friends cringe when he is around.

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      #42
      Hmm... I'm on the brink of cutting someone off. He's not overly dramatic, or aggressive, just very self-centered and shockingly lazy. Only contacts me when he wants something. I've blanked him since June.

      I know he's going to contact me about New Year. I don't want to respond. Mostly, because if I did, I'd be a hair's breadth away from telling him how much of a tw@ he is.

      On that score... If you delete someone from your facebook/twitter lists and block them, are they notified? I wanted to make a point - but I fear that'll make matters worse.

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        #43
        Originally posted by norrahe View Post
        Cut them out years ago, now have a few select people who i know are actually mates that i can speak my mind with.
        Did that years ago, few ex mates liked nothing better to do than try and hit on each others girlfriends. Although I did steal the worst culprit's girlfriend. and I got ostracized, so did she. I moved to Australia.

        Got about 8 good friends now that I have known for 20 years and although we piss each other off quite a bit I think we do that in a brotherly way.

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          #44
          Originally posted by realityhack View Post
          Hmm... I'm on the brink of cutting someone off. He's not overly dramatic, or aggressive, just very self-centered and shockingly lazy. Only contacts me when he wants something. I've blanked him since June.

          I know he's going to contact me about New Year. I don't want to respond. Mostly, because if I did, I'd be a hair's breadth away from telling him how much of a tw@ he is.

          On that score... If you delete someone from your facebook/twitter lists and block them, are they notified? I wanted to make a point - but I fear that'll make matters worse.
          Don't know about Twitter, but on FB they are not notified but if you block them, when they do find out you are no longer FB friends, they can work out they have been blocked as they will not be able to search for you.

          I would suggest you leave things as they are and continue to blank this person.

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            #45
            Originally posted by cailin maith View Post
            For the record my next tat will be a lilly!!
            w

            Originally posted by FiveTimes View Post
            location, location, location..

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              #46
              I had a mate who did something (said rather than did) a bit shocking. His thirteen year old daughter had a friend of 14 who was not backward when it came to being forward.
              The daughter emailed me out of the blue and asked that I ask my 13 year old son to get in touch with the friend as she fancied him.
              So I got in touch with my mate and told him I didnt appreciate getting emailed by a kid, especially on such a subject, and my son had absolutely no interest in this older girl. He said 'do you reckon I have a chance then'

              he was not joking.
              (\__/)
              (>'.'<)
              ("")("") Born to Drink. Forced to Work

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                #47
                Originally posted by MaryPoppins View Post
                Ooh nice, let us see a drawing? I've just had my foot one re-coloured, and am deciding how to expand on my upper back, or whether to leave it!
                It's hard to decide isn't it? I'm running out of hideable places to have them but I can't stop... too addictive.
                Bazza gets caught
                Socrates - "The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing."

                CUK University Challenge Champions 2010

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                  #48
                  Cheers for all the comments everyone - it[s nice to know it's not just me
                  Bazza gets caught
                  Socrates - "The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing."

                  CUK University Challenge Champions 2010

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                    #49
                    Originally posted by cailin maith View Post
                    It's hard to decide isn't it? I'm running out of hideable places to have them but I can't stop... too addictive.
                    Don't forget inside your mouth
                    Coffee's for closers

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                      #50
                      Originally posted by Spacecadet View Post
                      Don't forget inside your mouth
                      Not really for me...
                      Bazza gets caught
                      Socrates - "The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing."

                      CUK University Challenge Champions 2010

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