How one makes themselves not care about something ?

[Moose423956]

Go to Slough.

That makes you forget everything, and want to die - a most effective form of not caring about things.

Failing that, Basingstoke works almost as well.

I live between Slough and Basingstoke. The worst of both worlds.

Seriously, how can you not care about your children? Not possible, unless you're a total c**t, and if you were you wouldn't be asking the question. There must be something behind it. Is the missus trying to cut you off from them, so maybe you think it's easier to handle by not caring for them?

[BrilloPad]

Go to Slough.

That makes you forget everything, and want to die - a most effective form of not caring about things.

Failing that, Basingstoke works almost as well.

my Sister works at Slough - and agrees with you totally.

[BrilloPad]

The question states: How do you make yourself not care about something that you DO CARE FOR. ? For example how can you force yourself not to care about your children ?

I think you should tell us more about this. How many children do you have? What ages? Why do you want to care less?

[NotAllThere]

...Stockhold Syndrome...

Stockholm Syndrome.

To "not care" is not too difficult, but it takes time. You switch off the part that cares. Everytime it comes back, you switch it back off. Eventually, your heart will be hardened, and you'll have stopped caring. The pain remains - you've just numbed yourself to it. This is extremely damaging psychologically, as you'll tend to stop caring about anything, including yourself.

Better to care, and let the pain out. But don't get bitter - that's really bad for you as well.

[expat]

Also, there are plenty of examples how humans ignore extreme levels of psychological pain so they 'switch off' their conscience to cope with what is happening. Ever heard of the Stockhold Syndrome? That happens when a victim or an accessory to a serious crime sides with the perpetrator to block out the pain of what is happening to them and eventually believes that no harm was really done...

No, the Stockhold Syndrome is when you pretend that you don't care what just happened to your retirement portfolio

[tay]

Caring or not caring is as much about conscious action as it is about feeling. For example, a dog has just been run over - you care about what has happened because you love dogs and you know that a crime has been committed and feel the animal's pain and hate the driver for driving off and hope he gets caught and prosecuted.

Its only a dog ffs.. get a grip woman.

[VectraMan]

Caring or not caring is as much about conscious action as it is about feeling. For example, a dog has just been run over - you care about what has happened because you love dogs and you know that a crime has been committed and feel the animal's pain and hate the driver for driving off and hope he gets caught and prosecuted. But if you don't do anything to help the dog get to a vet or else arrange it to be put out of it's misery, is that any better than to be someone who was indifferent to the dog's plight and just walked on by without a second thought? So you can force yourself not to care - very easily simply by conscious inaction.

But in your analogy the person who does nothing still cares, they choose not to act on it. Which is not the same as the indifferent person. The question was how do you make yourself not care, not how do you ignore your feelings. If it requires a conscious act to ignore something, then you do care about it. A person who genuinely doesn't care wouldn't even think about it.

And I thought "Stockhold Syndrome" was a wrestling move.

[Pondlife]

Caring or not caring is as much about conscious action as it is about feeling. For example, a kiwi has just been run over - you don't care about what has happened because you tolerate kiwis and you know that a crime has only technically been committed and don't really care about the kiwi's pain and don't blame the driver for driving off and hope he gets more kiwis on the rest of his journey.

It's only a kiwi ffs.. get a grip woman



Just kiddin

[tay]

It's only a kiwi ffs.. get a grip woman



Just kiddin

Kiwis are an endangered species.

[TheFaQQer]

my Sister works at Slough - and agrees with you totally.

I take it all back - you just need one of these to live or work there:

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