How do you...

[Moose423956]

You got kids ?

Yes.

[King Cnvt]

a) tell your wife that you don't love her.
b) tell someone you've known for 6 years that you've been in love with her all that time.

Just wondering.

a). I don't love you.
b). I love you.

Maybe it's best not to ask a programmer.

[Moose423956]

What kind of hints?

(IMHE boy hints are different from girl hints...)

"You're my ideal woman".
"You look beautiful today".
"I really like your hair down".
"Do you want an ice-cream".

etc

Oh sorry, that last one was something else entirely.

Oh, and she bought me some chocolates for my birthday.

[SallyAnne]

Ah Moose, you poor lad :-( You shouldn't be fretting about this on our birthday.

Ask yourself this....what do you want to be doing on your birthday next year?

Whatever the answer, just ******* do it man. Life's too short for this sh*t.

[SallyAnne]

"You're my ideal woman".
"You look beautiful today".
"I really like your hair down".
"Do you want an ice-cream".

etc

Oh sorry, that last one was something else entirely.

Oh, and she bought me some chocolates for my birthday.

This other lass might just be lovoing the compliments like - she might not be lunching with you cause she loves you, just cause you make her feel goo.

But she's not the issue here is she? You being so clearly unhappy is.

Would you be happier alone...with hope of finding love? Even if it isn't with this particular lass?

[Lucy]

"You're my ideal woman".
"You look beautiful today".
"I really like your hair down".
"Do you want an ice-cream".

etc

Oh sorry, that last one was something else entirely.

Oh, and she bought me some chocolates for my birthday.

I don't think anything like the absolute truth works.

You must do this because otherwise you will always wonder. There is a risk, but life is a risk. At least if you can tell her how you feel that is it, you will know and then you can act on that, in either way. If she is your friend she will stay your friend and understand that sometimes we fall for our friends.

Be brave, life is joyous! (sometimes...)

I'm an optimist and always think there is hope, and thought someone might still like me even though he had been living with someone else for 10 years...fact is he wanted me, but not enough to leave her, he just wanted a plaything, not good enough.

[MobileCheese]

Fook diffcult one, only you can decide, but I would talk to the other women first before you say anything to your wife, you got to be honest.

Also you need to ask yourself if you have known this women 6 years why hasnt some happened already. Also sometime ladies can be a bit of tease, like the compliments etc go to lunch with you but wouldnt follow through.

Also think you must of loved your wife once or you wouldnt of married her.

Either way if you do go with new lady it will be bumpy ride, more so with kids.

Good luck

[SallyAnne]

but wouldnt follow through.

Girls never do that

[TheFaQQer]

What kind of hints?

(IMHE boy hints are different from girl hints...)

You've only got to see the situation between Max and Steph on Hollyoaks to see that.

[TheFaQQer]

Fook diffcult one, only you can decide, but I would talk to the other women first before you say anything to your wife, you got to be honest.

I'd say the complete opposite - sort out the situation with your wife first, and then sort out b if you need to.

B is a distraction in it all (plus has a boyfriend / partner) - the main thing to sort out first is whether you do actually still love your wife, and whether she loves you. Anything else is just background - if Moose still loves Mrs Moose, and vice versa, then there is nothing more to do. If there is no love in the marriage, then you are best off out of it, whether you have kids or not. You'd be better off out of the marriage, while there might be a possibility of staying friends (or the appearance of being friends) for the kids sake, rather than sticking in a loveless marriage, growing more and more resentful and bitter towards each other on the pretence that this is better for the children.

Take care of yourselves, and each other.