What to do when your confidence is shot.....

[DaveB]

Excelling as a permie and chinning your line manager before taking a dump in the HR Directors desk drawer, can often be a fine line out of your control. Never take it personal.

Watch a few Rocky vids on YouTube.

FTFY

[MarillionFan]

Loser!



HTH

MarillionFan

Hang on. I should have posted this ;-)

[MrMarkyMark]

Hang on. I should have posted this ;-)

Easily done, old chap, especially with that jet setting, champagne socialite, life you lead

[minestrone]

Do the opposite, take something that scares you, confidence comes from tackling a challenge and beating it, not hiding away

Put down the beefburger fatso.

[BrilloPad]

About 3 months ago, just after my mother died, a friend was telling me to pick myself up.

Recently she got made redundant. Her confidence shot to bits. I reminded her of the conversation!

It is tough. Really really tough.

Personally I get a divorce, put on a batman outfit, get banned, see my shrink, bleed the radiators and watch a gladiator film. Try it! Works every time.....

[minestrone]

About 3 months ago, just after my mother died, a friend was telling me to pick myself up.

Recently she got made redundant. Her confidence shot to bits. I reminded her of the conversation!

It is tough. Really really tough.

Personally I get a divorce, put on a batman outfit, get banned, see my shrink, bleed the radiators and watch a gladiator film. Try it! Works every time.....

Do you not feel that being able to run/cycle/swim for 24 hours just blows away confidence concerns? Or is that a mechanism to cope with confidence?

[FatLazyContractor]

I can understand that. It's not for everyone.

I've gone permie 3 times in the last 20 years all from
Contract and all when id become SME

First time back in 1999 lasted about six months. I contracted there for two years, went permie as a manager and became foul of politic. That time instead I got a 10k payoff and went off and opened my shop

Next in 2005, a year and a half as a contractor. Two more as permie in the U.S. And became a senior manager. I quit when the constant changes of boss and politics became a faff, I didn't like my latest boss. Three months after quitting they got fired. Confidence hit a rock bottom and I went back contracting

Last time is now. Again startup offer, one year as a contractor 3 as permie, now director with 15 staff and four functions. Politics a main in the arse, but I know play the game and I have the confidence to ride out the bumps. Worst judge of my performance is me and I bounce between highs and lows quite regularly. The trick is to stayed balanced and to build confidence by delivering

If you're miserable now then a tulipty PM role won't do it. Do the opposite, take something that scares you, confidence comes from tackling a challenge and beating it, not hiding away

And you ended up becoming a troll. Nice ...

[MrMarkyMark]

Do you not feel that being able to run/cycle/swim for 24 hours just blows away confidence concerns? Or is that a mechanism to cope with confidence?

Depends whether he can don the Batman outfit and bleed a radiator at the same time, as the 24 hour endurance.

[minestrone]

I took me 9 months to get up to the 18 miles a day 7 days a week running for the MDS training, for 8 months I failed to consistently finish the distance day after day. By the end I was a 100+ mile runner not through ability but just bloody minded stupidity.

"Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration." as Edison said.

Hard work pays off.

[minestrone]

Plan B is now a success.

"I don't want see you to waste your time" said the wife.

"you should go back to contracting" said the accountant

I never wanted to make that much money from this venture, I just wanted to prove I'm something more that a contracting slave.