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What to do when your confidence is shot.....
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Originally posted by AtW View PostLoser!
HTH
MarillionFanWhat happens in General, stays in General.You know what they say about assumptions!Comment
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Originally posted by MarillionFan View PostHang on. I should have posted this ;-)The Chunt of Chunts.Comment
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Originally posted by MarillionFan View Post
Do the opposite, take something that scares you, confidence comes from tackling a challenge and beating it, not hiding away
Put down the beefburger fatso.Comment
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About 3 months ago, just after my mother died, a friend was telling me to pick myself up.
Recently she got made redundant. Her confidence shot to bits. I reminded her of the conversation!
It is tough. Really really tough.
Personally I get a divorce, put on a batman outfit, get banned, see my shrink, bleed the radiators and watch a gladiator film. Try it! Works every time.....Comment
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Originally posted by BrilloPad View PostAbout 3 months ago, just after my mother died, a friend was telling me to pick myself up.
Recently she got made redundant. Her confidence shot to bits. I reminded her of the conversation!
It is tough. Really really tough.
Personally I get a divorce, put on a batman outfit, get banned, see my shrink, bleed the radiators and watch a gladiator film. Try it! Works every time.....Comment
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Originally posted by MarillionFan View PostI can understand that. It's not for everyone.
I've gone permie 3 times in the last 20 years all from
Contract and all when id become SME
First time back in 1999 lasted about six months. I contracted there for two years, went permie as a manager and became foul of politic. That time instead I got a 10k payoff and went off and opened my shop
Next in 2005, a year and a half as a contractor. Two more as permie in the U.S. And became a senior manager. I quit when the constant changes of boss and politics became a faff, I didn't like my latest boss. Three months after quitting they got fired. Confidence hit a rock bottom and I went back contracting
Last time is now. Again startup offer, one year as a contractor 3 as permie, now director with 15 staff and four functions. Politics a main in the arse, but I know play the game and I have the confidence to ride out the bumps. Worst judge of my performance is me and I bounce between highs and lows quite regularly. The trick is to stayed balanced and to build confidence by delivering
If you're miserable now then a tulipty PM role won't do it. Do the opposite, take something that scares you, confidence comes from tackling a challenge and beating it, not hiding awayComment
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Originally posted by minestrone View PostDo you not feel that being able to run/cycle/swim for 24 hours just blows away confidence concerns? Or is that a mechanism to cope with confidence?The Chunt of Chunts.Comment
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I took me 9 months to get up to the 18 miles a day 7 days a week running for the MDS training, for 8 months I failed to consistently finish the distance day after day. By the end I was a 100+ mile runner not through ability but just bloody minded stupidity.
"Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration." as Edison said.
Hard work pays off.Comment
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Plan B is now a success.
"I don't want see you to waste your time" said the wife.
"you should go back to contracting" said the accountant
I never wanted to make that much money from this venture, I just wanted to prove I'm something more that a contracting slave.Comment
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