When your wife wants a divorce, give her everything she wants

[GlenW]

Fighting over your kids can be very harmful to them. You should be doing what's best for them, not selfishly trying to "win" them.

So just walk away then?

Although I didn't need to fight, my children stayed with me, I would have if I'd needed to. Also, to use the fact that to fight would line the pockets of lawyers is not a reason, it is an excuse for shirking responsibilities.

[BrilloPad]

To see your children isn't worth fighting over?
They are probably better off not seeing you if this is your attitude.

You have to be very tough to fight. You have to go to EXTREMES and be prepared to carry out your threats. I know of a few who have done so. If I posted the stories you would probably condemn them. Being a man with kids - heads you lose, tails she wins...

[Ticktock]

So just walk away then?

Although I didn't need to fight, my children stayed with me, I would have if I'd needed to. Also, to use the fact that to fight would line the pockets of lawyers is not a reason, it is an excuse for shirking responsibilities.

While I'm sure everyone is happy for you that you got the result you wanted, to get so judgemental over someone else's situation without knowing what's happened just makes you a ****.

[BrilloPad]

Fighting over your kids can be very harmful to them. You should be doing what's best for them, not selfishly trying to "win" them.

Try telling that to the women! There are quite alot around like MaryPoppins. Alas there are also some who will use PAS. Which was how this thread started.

[BrilloPad]

While I'm sure everyone is happy for you that you got the result you wanted, to get so judgemental over someone else's situation without knowing what's happened just makes you a ****.

True. But the comment was posted in general so quite legitimate.

HTH

[GlenW]

Some real men on here aren't there? No sense of responsibility, "it's just too hard, everyone is against me, the women always win, so I'll just give in now and make no effort to see my children".

[Ticktock]

Was that meant to be directed at me for calling you a ****?

I don't have kids actually. I just truly believe you are being a ****.

[BrilloPad]

Some real men on here aren't there? No sense of responsibility, "it's just too hard, everyone is against me, the women always win, so I'll just give in now and make no effort to see my children".

I was arrested for the right to see my children.

But I don't condemn any other man who walks away. You have to be prepared for prison to see your kids. I have seen some tough nuts spend a few hours in police cells and come out a quivering wreck.

What I more dislike about men is they are not good with communicating their feelings. But that is a trait - much like women generally being poorer at chess.

[BrilloPad]

I don't have kids actually.

You should try it! Enormous fun - if hard work. Just don't get married....

[Ticktock]

You should try it! Enormous fun - if hard work. Just don't get married....

I've mentioned it before on here. Married, we both wanted kids but lost a few and it's no longer possible.