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How to Approach 'Paternity' Time Off With Potential Clients?
Do you actually have children? The reason to take time off is primarily to support your wife/partner and nothing to do with you or the baby.
I prefer to support financially, I would be a hindrance more than a help, im sure for 8 hours of the day she can manage with help from mother in law etc.
I prefer to support financially, I would be a hindrance more than a help, im sure for 8 hours of the day she can manage with help from mother in law etc.
It does rather depend. On top of a new baby, there is a big difference between:
- a normal vaginal delivery
- a traumatic vaginal delivery (instruments, episiotomy etc.)
- an easy labour
- a difficult labour
- a planned caesarian delivery
- an emergency caesarian delivery
But also, it's a very magical time to be around your new baby.
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It does rather depend. On top of a new baby, there is a big difference between:
- a normal vaginal delivery
- a traumatic vaginal delivery (instruments, episiotomy etc.)
- an easy labour
- a difficult labour
- a planned caesarian delivery
- an emergency caesarian delivery
But also, it's a very magical time to be around your new baby.
Everyday for me is magical, moreso when they start developing some sort of personality.
Do you actually have children? The reason to take time off is primarily to support your wife/partner and nothing to do with you or the baby.
One tiny baby shouldn't need two full time carers. Obviously if there are complications it's different - the mother may be unable to lift the baby, etc but we* all managed just fine in the days paternity leave was non-existent and fathers wouldn't even take the birth-day off!
Why take time off, the baby doesn't do much the first few months, better to wait and take holidays when it is walking/talking.
To help bond with the baby. There is no real need as such, it is just something most fathers actually want to do.
One of the strongest memories I have of my 5 year old was the first night we had her back from the hospital (she was in ICU for 5 days), her scalp had torn open in the delivery due to the suction cup they had used. We could not put her on her back as it hurt her head, we were advised not to put her on her front. She cried and cried until I put her on my chest and held her there, supporting her head, as I lay in a dark room, she feel asleep almost immediately. It is moments like this that help you become a parent rather than just the biological father.
It does rather depend. On top of a new baby, there is a big difference between:
- a normal vaginal delivery
- a traumatic vaginal delivery (instruments, episiotomy etc.)
- an easy labour
- a difficult labour
- a planned caesarian delivery
- an emergency caesarian delivery
But also, it's a very magical time to be around your new baby.
Add in postpartum depression (which is statistically more likely with autumnal and winter births), and I'd never want to be away immediately after the birth.
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Add in postpartum depression (which is statistically more likely with autumnal and winter births), and I'd never want to be away immediately after the birth.
But you are still going to be there in evening, all night, early morning via phone throughout the day.
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