Want to leave current contract

[NotAllThere]

... then all you have to cope with is the stress of a "bollocking" which won't last more than a few minutes especially if you don't reply, and remember to have a smirk on your face when you receive it..

Reminds me of the story of a contractor summoned into the project managers office for a severe telling off. He walks out of the office, sits at his desk, and his colleague asks "What was that?".

"About £25".

[blossom]

Reflecting

My contract is actually only an 8 hour day, and yes in theory I could just do the hours and shake it off. It's hard though....i'm not genrally the kind of person who can do that (I really wish I was and need to take steps to get better at that).

A lot of the problem is how I'm handling it and I'm caving into the demands rather than pushing back. This is what everyone on the programme is doing though, it's like a whirlwind where nobody is managing upwards, managing client expectations etc. (It's a huge, juggernaut of a programme in investment banking and I work for an external consultancy/ supplier). It's put me off working supplier side a little, although I do have a consultancy background.

I'm used to doing generally fairly long hours demanding deadlines, fast paced etc, and tried to do all I can to meet the demands, but i think with this one being so extreme, i've just ....erm... lost the plot a bit

Having read these responses, I feel in better shape to take my next steps. I doubt i will see out my contract, I will do a thorough handover document, but not going to kill my self over the next couple of weeks by taking the stress.

[blossom]

Reminds me of the story of a contractor summoned into the project managers office for a severe telling off. He walks out of the office, sits at his desk, and his colleague asks "What was that?".

"About £25".

[WTFH]

How long do you have left of your notice period?

[blossom]

How long do you have left of your notice period?

2 weeks (including this one) - I know I'm nearly there...*sobs*

[WTFH]

2 weeks (including this one) - I know I'm nearly there...*sobs*

So, just over 8 working days to go.

You can do it.

[ContractorScum]

Just work 9-5/5:30, I don't see the problem. Man up!

If they can't manage a project then it's their problem not yours. If you are doing 10-12 hour days then you are not helping yourself and others as it sets a precedent that it's ok to work long hours and burn yourself out.

[oscarose]

The 'situation' isn't causing the stress. Your reaction to the 'situation' is causing the stress...

[blossom]

The 'situation' isn't causing the stress. Your reaction to the 'situation' is causing the stress...

I kind of agree with that - however, in fairness, this is an abnormally stressful environment by most people's standard. the extremity of the situation is impacting on my ability to react appropriately


It's all relative of course, I know I'm not dying in a warzone, but it doesn't feel any easier.

I think I'm in the process of learning my personal limits.

[oscarose]

I kind of agree with that - however, in fairness, this is an abnormally stressful environment by most people's standard. the extremity of the situation is impacting on my ability to react appropriately


It's all relative of course, I know I'm not dying in a warzone, but it doesn't feel any easier.

I think I'm in the process of learning my personal limits.

Your brain senses danger and releases a whole boat load of chemicals, adrenaline etc. It's an unpleasant feeling (sweaty hands, rapid heart beat) but that's all. It's normal.

CBT helps you manage these feelings by challenging your thoughts and therefore your responses.

I have links to some good resources that I find useful. PM me if you're interested.