Divorce: How to avoid being a permanent slave to ex?

[AtW]

Only way to avoid it is to never get married...

[SueEllen]

Only way to avoid it is to never get married...

If you have kids you still have to pay for them whether you are married or not.

In theory you don't have to pay for any of your ex-partner's living expenses in practice the kids need somewhere to live, food to eat, clothes to wear and someone to take care of them.

If you want to completely escape your responsibilities either be poor or feck off abroad.

If you can't and don't want the financial tulip to be all on you get with a partner richer than you.

[northernladyuk]

Only way to avoid it is to never get married...

I'd say you're safe enough on that score.

[Gibbon]

He has to force to look for another income stream. Go poor, take some permie role in the same field so you keep the skills for later and max contridute into the pension scheme. If questioned just say divorce stress caused a mini-meltdown, maybe visit the GP with mild depression. By the sound of her she will either meet and marry someone else for income or more unlikely support herself. If she remarries, he's off the hook.

Also worth considering is giving her all the house for a clean break, that's what I did many years ago, then just CSA payments with the current recommendations being not as punitive any more.

[MPwannadecentincome]

Would be good if you are able to reply to this thread, or PM me, when/if your case gets sorted, if you don't mind?

There is nothing to sort out the final court case was 2 years ago she just never accepted the ruling so is behaving accordingly.

If you want more detailed advice go to wikivorce.com

[BrilloPad]

If by that you mean screaming like a banshee until no one can take any more when she doesn't get her own way, then I suppose you are right.

And I have been telling people not to get married since I joined CUK.

I also tell people not to use any tax schemes.

No-one listens to either....

[CapnAHAB]

Surely they just need to get a consent order agreed, then thats that?

[BrilloPad]

Surely they just need to get a consent order agreed, then thats that?

You have never been divorced have you.

Before men are allowed to marry, they should be aware of the consequences of divorce. Effectively, marriage is considered to be for life and a man is expected to support his ex-spouse for life.

Its nice that the courts believe women should not be working. At least one part of the 1950s is still with us.

[CapnAHAB]

You have never been divorced have you.

Before men are allowed to marry, they should be aware of the consequences of divorce. Effectively, marriage is considered to be for life and a man is expected to support his ex-spouse for life.

Its nice that the courts believe women should not be working. At least one part of the 1950s is still with us.

Yep - as of January.

Financial status of both parties submitted to the court, judgment agreed, job done, consent order approved.

Here's some reading:

https://www.gov.uk/money-property-wh...-consent-order


eDIT - it was probably the most amicable divorce ever, so I had no problems getting the forms completed and agreed. In this instance, could be difficult for the OP

[BrilloPad]

Yep - as of January.

Financial status of both parties submitted to the court, judgment agreed, job done, consent order approved.

Here's some reading:

https://www.gov.uk/money-property-wh...-consent-order

Think yourself incredibly lucky. It usually is not like that.