All sorts of trouble .... (Tax & VAT)

[SimonMac]

I appreciate your wife has been ignoring letters etc, but surely the accountant should have been chasing for information for your accounts?

If the accountant is chasing the wife, and the wife is ignoring/hiding the letters it's easy to see how the mess occurred. It's also a stark reminder that an accountant will give you a recommendation as to what you should do, it's up to you (or the designated person in the YourCo) to act upon this advice.

[helpplease]

How did you find out then? came across a letter? Cheerily asked her if all the books were uptodate and got suspicious?

I don't want to come across as digging for dirt, but trying to understand the "how"?

Heh .... brace yourself ...

As a joke I put on one of her jackets to go walk the dog .... stuck my hand in the pocket and before i had chance to take out what I had found I was pounced on .... I won the fight and found the letter from HMRC.

Almost funny ...

[SimonMac]

Nothing to say on it other than it got on top and didnt know what to do ... far from been anywhere near in a course of separation, things were great.

Having looked at this myself and spoke to a few people I totally agree .... it's very easy, there's no reason someone with a little bit of sense could not get on with doing this stuff.

Could the Mrs be suffering from something which explains why she is not coping, I know you probably hate her at the moment, but you loved her once, maybe she needs professional help too

[psychocandy]

Could the Mrs be suffering from something which explains why she is not coping, I know you probably hate her at the moment, but you loved her once, maybe she needs professional help too

Got a point. Hiding something like a hotel receipt if you're having an affair is one thing - clear motive. Just don;t see why she chose to hide all this stuff from you. Seems like it was more than just not bothering to do if she was actively trying for you not to find out. Whats she got to gain from that?

[eek]

Got a point. Hiding something like a hotel receipt if you're having an affair is one thing - clear motive. Just don;t see why she chose to hide all this stuff from you. Seems like it was more than just not bothering to do if she was actively trying for you not to find out. Whats she got to gain from that?

Once things fall apart it may seem easier to hide the truth rather than saying what has happened. Then it just gets worse until you feel you have no choice but to hide everything...

[SimonMac]

Bump, OP you still around?

[helpplease]

Bump, OP you still around?

Still alive ! Just decided to take the holiday is mentioned .... I needed it !

[cojak]

Still alive ! Just decided to take the holiday is mentioned .... I needed it !

Hope you're making progress sorting it all out.

[SimonMac]

Still alive ! Just decided to take the holiday is mentioned .... I needed it !

[jpdw]

I've just read this thread and like others I really feel for the OP and hope he's getting things sorted - hope the holiday was good time-out from it and that you're gradually getting on top of the mess & sorting it out.

However easy it is to ignore reminders from accountants is one question but that pre-supposes the reminders were there & on time themselves. I moved accountants a few months ago partly because I found myself reminding the accountants rather than the other way around (one time waiting till the day of the VAT deadline just to see if they'd forgotten). 'Colleagues' with the same accountants had similar issues, on one occasion apparently incurring penalties as a result. So I can imagine that if someone is less inclined to chase the accountant, and the accountant isn't reminding the client either, it's too easy for things to have slipped by. Not an excuse, but its understandable how it happens.

I'll let you guess which firm this was.