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Pogle has it
People want to buy something for you, not something 'worthy'. As you point out you may live for quite some time, so ask for something fun.
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I got a very nice emerald and diamond ring for my 40th - to replace the very cheap engagement ring we bought when we got engaged. I don’t really want 'things' for birthdays anymore, I'd rather go to places and as my birthday is in August and we're usually on holiday we hire a boat and crew and go off on the sea for the day.
But how about a therimin? I got one for Himself and its great fun to learn to play, and is great for creating spooky noises at halloween
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Originally posted by northernladuk View PostI have suggested this a number of times on 40th and 50th threads but normally to people looking to buy for someone, not the actual birthday boy but here is what I did for my partners 40th who didn't really know what she wanted.
I went round the main players in her life that were asking and worked out that I allocated them a month of the year and they then booked some event in that month involving either just them and us or a group thing. Could be anything as simple as a meal out to a trip away or spa day or more fun like a weekend in Ireland and in Spain (examples of what my other half did). They then gave a 'voucher' inviting them to that do in that month, even if it wasn't booked, just a promise.
Outcome was my partner had over 12 invites to events with family and friends lasting the whole year. Each even had a birthday balloon and badge so was like having 12 intimate parties rather than one big one. She had something to look forward every 3 weeks or so for the year so made it memorable. Having a large family and being a social butterfly it worked a treat for her. Wouldn't have worked for a lazy miserable bastard like me so have to see if it's your cup of tea.
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The thing is I do quite fancy a new synth to play with, and a new telescope with a longer focal length, both of which would have a resale value reasonably close to what they cost so I could argue they aren't really "wasted" as my family will be able to monetize them once I'm gone. I think I could get away with asking ms doodab and my folks for something like that, although given the amount of stuff I'm ebaying I could easily buy them myself and avoid the guilt.
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I have suggested this a number of times on 40th and 50th threads but normally to people looking to buy for someone, not the actual birthday boy but here is what I did for my partners 40th who didn't really know what she wanted.
I went round the main players in her life that were asking and worked out that I allocated them a month of the year and they then booked some event in that month involving either just them and us or a group thing. Could be anything as simple as a meal out to a trip away or spa day or more fun like a weekend in Ireland and in Spain (examples of what my other half did). They then gave a 'voucher' inviting them to that do in that month, even if it wasn't booked, just a promise.
Outcome was my partner had over 12 invites to events with family and friends lasting the whole year. Each even had a birthday balloon and badge so was like having 12 intimate parties rather than one big one. She had something to look forward every 3 weeks or so for the year so made it memorable. Having a large family and being a social butterfly it worked a treat for her. Wouldn't have worked for a lazy miserable bastard like me so have to see if it's your cup of tea.
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Originally posted by mudskipper View PostAre you well enough for a party (even a low key one?)
If so, you could point out that "stuff" seems pretty pointless, but if they want to chip in for the party, that would be good.
I went dogging for my 40th - relatively cheap and great fun - our local track (now closed) did a sit down meal for around £25 giving head.
Spending time with people probably means more to you and them.
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Originally posted by d000hg View PostIs this realistically your last birthday, barring miracles (sorry to be blunt)?
It's hard to say for sure, I'd guess the odds are probably about 50/50. When I was diagnosed I was told I had less than 6 months without chemo and with it 18 would be good going. The six months are nearly up. OTOH every cancer patient is different, so if the current chemo works well I could be one of the 5% (of late stage stomach cancer sufferers) who get another 5 years. You have to remember the vast majority of those are over 65 as well, so as I am young and fairly fit my odds are probably a bit better.
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Originally posted by doodab View Post
Help with funeral costs, I hadn't thought of that. It's certainly a practical gift that would take another weight off my mind.
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Originally posted by mudskipper View PostAre you well enough for a party (even a low key one?)
Originally posted by mudskipperSpending time with people probably means more to you and them.
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Ask them to make a donation to a charity of your choice, maybe set up a Virginmoneygiving or Just Giving web page to make it easy for them.
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Are you well enough for a party (even a low key one?)
If so, you could point out that "stuff" seems pretty pointless, but if they want to chip in for the party, that would be good.
I went dog racing for my 40th - relatively cheap and great fun - our local track (now closed) did a sit down meal for around £25 a head.
Spending time with people probably means more to you and them.
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