Reply to: Cash missing... suspect cleaner... how to handle?

[d000hg]

What would Dexter do?

For a pickpocket? Nowt. I don't think they're bumping off any of their clients

[Quagmire]

There is seeking punishment to correct a wrong, and seeking punishment out of a sense of vengeance or desire for revenge.

Exactly, I am not saying you shall not forgive her, but only after she admits her guilt and/or is punished. Christian values are great help in this sort of things, but IMHO you can only forgive, once there is admission of guilt and it all sees the light of the day.

Otherwise you are not making any favour to yourself or the robber.

[NotAllThere]

I'd just shoot the c***. Shallow grave in the hills, reduce the grief from that gene pool.

Well that's how I was brought up.

Bloody liberals.

It is perfectly legal to secretly film people in your own home. There's a small chance it might not be admissible in court, but that's the only problem.

[d000hg]

There is seeking punishment to correct a wrong, and seeking punishment out of a sense of vengeance or desire for revenge.

[Quagmire]

Hello! I have been reading this board for a while, but only now decided to register and chip in.

I find it astonishing that OP considered not doing the most he could to have this cleaner receive as severe punishment as possible. Either by embarrassing her/him in front of company chief/employees or by reporting to authorities.

"All that is necessary for evil to succeed is that good men do nothing" and all that mumble. I know what she did is not genocide, but you have to straighten things like that out.. otherwise you simply become a participant in all her future wrongdoing.

[fullyautomatix]

Why are you not feeling great? You're not the one on the rob....

Got a real thing about people who think they can have things for free. The rest of us work hard to get what we want so why should someone find the easy way and rob. Deserves all she gets to be honest.

She is working hard, she is cleaning Dhoogs house FFS !

Also, you seem to think robbing is easy, try it yourself !

[d000hg]

Earlier in the thread people were talking about the legality of the filming.

Did the officer mention anything about that?

Not at all. Asked us to email or burn a copy.

[jmo21]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...

Earlier in the thread people were talking about the legality of the filming.

Did the officer mention anything about that?

[Bunk]

The rest of us work hard

Speak for yourself

[psychocandy]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...

Why are you not feeling great? You're not the one on the rob....

Got a real thing about people who think they can have things for free. The rest of us work hard to get what we want so why should someone find the easy way and rob. Deserves all she gets to be honest.

[ctdctd]

I'd just shoot the c***. Shallow grave in the hills, reduce the grief from that gene pool.

Well that's how I was brought up.

You have to adapt with the times.

Don't bury the body - more use in a "value" meal and you'd probably get 20 quid from the local meat processing plant.

[shaunbhoy]

I'd just shoot the c***. Shallow grave in the hills, reduce the grief from that gene pool.

Well that's how I was brought up.

Harsh but fair............not to mention highly effective.

[Cliphead]

I think its the right course of action, not all of the people she cleans for will have an ipad knocking around to catch her, but may have suspected it. For all anyone knows cleaning may only be her side job, which gets her access to properties to hoover up the cash lying around!

You dont need to press charges, but get her a caution so if she does get caught again it will not be so simple to ignire. Im sorry but theft is theft, regardless of the income of the person stealing, most cleaners are honest and dont feel the need to steal.

Its not even like its some corporate stock losses from someone working minimum wage in retail, this is personal theft from your home, your wallet! Would anyone be so forgiving if a pickpocket knabbed £10 and then slipped the wallet back in your pocket!

I'd just shoot the c***. Shallow grave in the hills, reduce the grief from that gene pool.

Well that's how I was brought up.

[IR35FanClub]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...

I think its the right course of action, not all of the people she cleans for will have an ipad knocking around to catch her, but may have suspected it. For all anyone knows cleaning may only be her side job, which gets her access to properties to hoover up the cash lying around!

You dont need to press charges, but get her a caution so if she does get caught again it will not be so simple to ignire. Im sorry but theft is theft, regardless of the income of the person stealing, most cleaners are honest and dont feel the need to steal.

Its not even like its some corporate stock losses from someone working minimum wage in retail, this is personal theft from your home, your wallet! Would anyone be so forgiving if a pickpocket knabbed £10 and then slipped the wallet back in your pocket!

[d000hg]

Good timing. We considered what to do and spoke to some older people we trust, and they all advised we should contact the police in the first instance. So we did, and a nice lady officer came round this evening to discuss. Apparently they will ask the lady to come in, and if she doesn't the evidence is strong enough they'd forcibly arrest her in cuffs!

I was not feeling great about that, but the officer did point out that the cleaner looks totally calm as she goes through my wallet - no furtive glances around, no signs of nerves - which suggests this isn't anything new for her.

So, we'll see. If I suddenly disappear you'll know I've been murdered...