Reply to: Please God, grant me MAD SKILLZ!!

[administrator]

I always wished I was really really good at something. There is just something ineffably cool about true mastery. In chronological order, here are the areas in which I wished I had MAD SKILLZ!

1) Making loads of money
2) Seducing hot women to have sex with me
3) BMX freestyle (park and street)
4) Martial Arts for self defence
5) Something creative such as making original music or artwork

Has Wilmsy got himself a sockie for Xmas?

[cojak]

Perfect pitch.

[mudskipper]

Ah, that old gem "just be yourself". There is an essay that I think might be a girl's PhD thesis floating around the web somewhere, in which she desribes that remark as "famously useless advice". That's because the people receiving it don't know what it means. I'd go a step further and suggest that the people giving that adivce also don't really know what it means. They are probably just repeating something they heard someone else say, perhaps in real life or just in a holywood movie.

I think I finally understand what "just be yourself" really means, but only after years of studying psychology and PUA theory, and going out and chatting with hundreds of women and then analysing the outcome later on. What it really means is:

Just cast aside all of your fears, anxieties, approval-seeking, inhibitions, memories of negative past experiences, socially-learned behaviours that repel women (e.g. people-pleasing)... and also let go of all outcome-dependence... and be your absolute best self (e.g. confident, dominant, charming, humorous, playful)... oh and remember to escallate physically - but you must do it naturally, even though you probably came from a family that is distant and "hands-off".

"Just be yourself" is almost like layman's speak for "Just become totally self-actualised". If only it were that easy (or even possible!)...

Fair enough!

[Spacecadet]

Yes, but how many pints did she have?

touché!

[Zippy]

5-6 pints used to do the trick for me

Yes, but how many pints did she have?

[Spacecadet]

Ah, that old gem "just be yourself". There is an essay that I think might be a girl's PhD thesis floating around the web somewhere, in which she desribes that remark as "famously useless advice". That's because the people receiving it don't know what it means. I'd go a step further and suggest that the people giving that adivce also don't really know what it means. They are probably just repeating something they heard someone else say, perhaps in real life or just in a holywood movie.

I think I finally understand what "just be yourself" really means, but only after years of studying psychology and PUA theory, and going out and chatting with hundreds of women and then analysing the outcome later on. What it really means is:

Just cast aside all of your fears, anxieties, approval-seeking, inhibitions, memories of negative past experiences, socially-learned behaviours that repel women (e.g. people-pleasing)... and also let go of all outcome-dependence... and be your absolute best self (e.g. confident, dominant, charming, humorous, playful)... oh and remember to escallate physically - but you must do it naturally, even though you probably came from a family that is distant and "hands-off".

"Just be yourself" is almost like layman's speak for "Just become totally self-actualised". If only it were that easy (or even possible!)...

5-6 pints used to do the trick for me

[Jeff Maginty]

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[Spacecadet]

Yeah, I got the gist - just surprised that it needs documenting as a methodology. I'd say be yourself and behave naturally. Then you've got a chance that whoever you end up hooking up with will actually like you.

It's a bit like selling get rich quick schemes to thickos, it isn't really going to help the seriously desperate!

[mudskipper]

"Kino-escallation" means escallating physically (i.e. through touch) in a way that respects a woman's comfort levels. At least initially, it is non-sexual touching. It is the kind of thing that "naturals" do instinctively without even knowing that they are doing it. If you are thinking "grope", then you are way, way off the mark (that stuff comes later, but only if the woman is comfortable with it).

Yeah, I got the gist - just surprised that it needs documenting as a methodology. I'd say be yourself and behave naturally. Then you've got a chance that whoever you end up hooking up with will actually like you.

[Spacecadet]

"Kino-escallation" means escallating physically (i.e. through touch) in a way that respects a woman's comfort levels. At least initially, it is non-sexual touching. It is the kind of thing that "naturals" do instinctively without even knowing that they are doing it. If you are thinking "grope", then you are way, way off the mark (that stuff comes later, but only if the woman is comfortable with it).

Ahhh Reminds me of my (long past) mischief making days

[Jeff Maginty]

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[Spacecadet]

FTFY

I didn't want to comment on something I had no experience of!

[mudskipper]

Interesting comment AtW!

A few years back I got really into PUA/Self-improvement. I gained a lot of confidence and dated many hot girls. However... they still rejected me, despite my newfound confidence (and self-belief). I think when it comes to seducing women, you do need confidence, but on its own it's not enough. You also need other things (e.g. Dominance, Playfullness, Social Proof, Kino Escallation, etc). If you were riding a fast motorcycle (superbike), would you rather have confidence, or competence (and a healthy fear of the bike)?*



By the way, good luck with SKA. I hope you get super rich and laugh at all the suckers who doubted you!


* - Respect to Mystery for that analogy.

Had to google that one - wtf?

[mudskipper]

Would help if you weren't a fat useless waste of space with a small knob.

FTFY

[Spacecadet]

Would help if you weren't a fat useless waste of space