Reply to: Christmas party attire dilemma

[d000hg]

Me and my 4 year old autistic son attend the work Christmas party. There is a fancy dress prize for best boy and girl. My son loves the dressing up box - alas it is his older sister's stuff he prefers rather than his older brother's. We keep hiding the dresses - but he keeps digging them out.

I have never let him out in public like that. Should I?

If you're not prepared to turn a profit at your disabled child's expense, maybe you're not cut out to be a contractor.

NLUK.

[TheFaQQer]

I am dyslexic and once turned up to a Toga party dressed as a Goat

And those Romans weren't fussy, were they!

[DodgyAgent]

I am dyslexic and once turned up to a Toga party dressed as a Goat

Me too, I never understood why my wife got so angry about me dropping into a warehouse

[DodgyAgent]

Well it would not do my self esteem any good - but he is in his own little world. He has very little idea what is going on.

Though in some ways he can be quite clever. When he can't get on the computer at nursery he turns it off at the wall. Soon as the coast is clear he powers it back on. I have to admire the sneakiness.

It must be very difficult to know what exactly is going on in his mind. I suppose an act of such sneakiness is a refreshing revelation of how he is thinking.

[Support Monkey]

Go as Flintstones/Cavemen etc.

Or togas

I am dyslexic and once turned up to a Toga party dressed as a Goat

[Pondlife]

Go as Flintstones/Cavemen etc.

Or togas

[MarillionFan]

Dress him as a Scotsman, sorted.

What! And scar him for life!?!?!

Better to put him in a dress as first suggested.

[gingerjedi]

Dress him as a Scotsman, sorted.

[doodab]

I once sent my son to a fancy dress party dressed as a robot in an outfit i had made out off carboard boxes and tin foil

I still feel bad about it to this day

It's annoying when you put a lot of effort into something you really want for yourself and they just trash it isn't it.

[Support Monkey]

I once sent my son to a fancy dress party dressed as a robot in an outfit i had made out off carboard boxes and tin foil

I still feel bad about it to this day

[TheFaQQer]

I thought both of you would be going as Spiderman?

[doomage]

My eldest was diagnosed ASD when he was 2 1/2 but we have recovered him (he's 6 now, has been fine since starting school - combination of intensive ABA and biomed). They all have their little obsessions, luckily dresses was not one for us. At his birthday party last weekend he was Anakin Skywalker, I would have preferred Luke.

Other 'normal' 4 year old boys like to wear dresses, let him do what he wants. Plenty of time to bow to peer pressure in the future. If anyone gives him a hard time, take them out back for a kicking. Ask yourself, who's side are you on, his or theirs? Like all parents you might want to examine whether you are passing on your hang-ups to your children.

If you are interested in how we treated our autistic son you can PM me, I'll send you his story which the missus (who did most of the work while I kept on invoicing) wrote up.

[BrilloPad]

You and him both.

[wobbegong]

Daughter goes as Cinderella. Father and son go as ugly sisters, sorted. All in fancy dress, lad gets to wear what he wants and Dad shows support, all in seasonally acceptable costumes.

First rate suggestion!

[MarillionFan]

Stop being so mean.



Lend him your Gingham dress FFS.

It's got a stain on and it's in storage. May come in useful in the future.