Reply to: Keeping the Lie

[EternalOptimist]

Aye, but will it last? Will then inevitable still happen? Hopefully not....

will the inevitable still happen ????????????


ha ha ha ha ha - put your brain care specialist on danger-money baby

[SuperZ]

I hate it when you have to get serious on this forum but......

Last year my daughter was going through a rocky patch with her hubby, and I strongly suspected she might have been 'carrying on'. She told me one night that she hated him.
I warned her about the devastation it would cause to the kids if she did anything to finish the marriage, and pointed out his good points, but told her that what ever she decided I would back her up 100% blah blah.
I never said anything to him, even though we go out and get on well.

I took the kids away for a week to give her a break and to try to remove some of the stress from her, also some dosh to help her through. They are now as happy as they ever were, if I had said something ???? who knows where we would be

Aye, but will it last? Will then inevitable still happen? Hopefully not....

[Zippy]

I wasn't trying to be too serious, just to get people to share some lurid stories

Thank you for that timely confession

[Platypus]

I hate it when you have to get serious on this forum

I wasn't trying to be too serious, just to get people to share some lurid stories

[Platypus]

How are you going to explain to a mate that you knew when it all goes baps up?

I won't explain anything, I'll just shrug and huff in the style of Manuel in Fawlty Towers,

"she crazy... crazy..."

Episode "The Psychiatrist".

[Zippy]

Difficult position and option. How are you going to explain to a mate that you knew when it all goes baps up?

I didn't, and wouldn't. I lied through my teeth (and others did the same for me)

My two best mates broke up and I had to lie to both of them - I think that's why they are still my friends.

[EternalOptimist]

I hate it when you have to get serious on this forum but......

Last year my daughter was going through a rocky patch with her hubby, and I strongly suspected she might have been 'carrying on'. She told me one night that she hated him.
I warned her about the devastation it would cause to the kids if she did anything to finish the marriage, and pointed out his good points, but told her that what ever she decided I would back her up 100% blah blah.
I never said anything to him, even though we go out and get on well.

I took the kids away for a week to give her a break and to try to remove some of the stress from her, also some dosh to help her through. They are now as happy as they ever were, if I had said something ???? who knows where we would be

[Pondlife]

Just put it on facebook.

Problem solved.

[The Lone Gunman]

Have been in this situation and kept my mouth shut. Nasty.

Difficult position and option. How are you going to explain to a mate that you knew when it all goes baps up?

[sunnysan]

Me 5 pence

FWIW, I went through a similar situation although possibly not as clear cut as Platypus's situation.

My ex was basically telling all her mates who would tell their other halves , that she thought our relationship was coming to an end etc etc, she said subsequently that she was not unfaithful during this time , which I think is bull s h i t e but it was only after she has gone, with no real reason that I found all this out.

I felt like a idiot and would have appreciated if someone had said something although by my own admittance I am not sure I would have taken the advice in the spirit it was intended.

However, as the saying goes "The road to hell is paved with good intentions" and in emotionally charged situation the law of unintended consequences could mean you do more harm than good.

Whatever you do do, dont tell him, if you have enough proof talk to her and tell her to sort her sh i t out or you will tell him.

[SuperZ]

They smell like Pot Noodles?

Chutney

[Zippy]

Have been in this situation and kept my mouth shut. Nasty.

[DimPrawn]

Ewww, those kinda wimmin always have a certain smell about them. I wouldn`t...........

They smell like Pot Noodles?

[sasguru]

Is that even possible?

Dunno.

[SuperZ]

If this bird is bonking anything in trousers its only fair that you do the right thing, send me her phone number right away

Ewww, those kinda wimmin always have a certain smell about them. I wouldn`t...........