Reply to: Mothers

[RichardCranium]

You should be worried that she will see a lawyer at some point to give you a warning. Once a lawyer gets a client they rarely help. They try to take things downhill to get the maximum money.

Two people I know had their marriage go wrong some years back when had admitted he was a gay. (He wasn't but it was a way out for them both.)

They agreed to split amicably but were advised to get a solicitor to do the paperwork. The solicitor said "you must have a solicitor each, it's the rules". So they did.

Within weeks, both were referring to the other as "that mad bitch" or "my mental queer husband".

Three months later they saw the light and got together and both dismissed their solicitors. They had to sell their flat to pay off the legal fees, but at least they managed to divorce as friends.

bobsmithldn: take your wife out for dinner and say "I understand you need a friend 'cos your husband isn't listening. Remember me from years ago, from before you got married? I'll be your friend. Tell me instead."

That's how Mrs Cranium and I solve the impossible problems. Dinner's cheaper than divorce.

[lambrini_socialist]

just adding my voice to the deafening roar of incredulous contempt for the OP.

[dmini]

We used to have a phrase in our family - "that was BC" - the BC standing for "before children".Seriously - 2 kids require a major lifestyle shift. The older one is probably starting to hit the point where they DON'T want to nap, but want to play a lot - the younger one wants attention too whenever awake. Its not easy. It may be she has some post natal depression as well.
Some questions.....
Are you doing your fair share of the tasks at home in the evening? If she is doing stuff you should not be sitting down unwinding from your hard day at work!! She's had a tough day too!!
Remember back to those "BC" days. What did you use to do with her. Might need toning down a bit if she's very tired - but try and take her out - minus kids (get a trusted babysitter) - even if just for a couple of hours, just to relax.
If you're doing all of these already, and still its horrible, then get hold of, and talk to marriage guidance.
As other have said - marriage is tough at times - I get to 18 years next Monday, and some bits of that have been rough. But we made it through.

[daviejones]

You could always employ a young, fit nanny. That may give her something to think about, plus there is always the chance of sex when the missus is out...

HTH

[Spacecadet]

How old are the kids? If you've just had the 2nd, less than 12 months ago, then it could well be Post Natal depression which is serious and needs dealing with.

Stop being a tw@t and talk to her.

WHS

the original poster has to be a troll, surely no one can be that much of a knut

[DaveB]

How old are the kids? If you've just had the 2nd, less than 12 months ago, then it could well be Post Natal depression which is serious and needs dealing with.

Stop being a tw@t and talk to her.

[scooby]

this is how my missus went over the last 9mths after our first.

stop and talk, see if its something you are doing, or even something you want (such as things to be how they were before the kids!). that has been part of my problem.

[Diver]

Send her shopping with a wad of cash when she starts to get on yer tit, works for me

[BrilloPad]

I've 'eard from a few mates that women go absolutely *£$(%"£*! mental after the 2nd kid. flip me, it's true, she's going fliping mad at home.

I think I'll forget this "taking the Summer off larf" and get a fliping job, otherwise I'll to' 'er ...

Don't get me wrong, the kids are great, it's her moods and completely wacky behaviour I can stand, like she's got PMT all the time ...

Might have to see a lawyer at some stage to give 'er a warning.

Have you spoken to her? See if you can do any more to help? Kids are great and enormous fun but can be hard work at times.

You should be worried that she will see a lawyer at some point to give you a warning. Once a lawyer gets a client they rarely help. They try to take things downhill to get the maximum money. Unethical but they need a new Ferrari - they are worse than agents. A bit like having a house fire, calling the fire brigade and them pouring napalm on it.

I am sure if you work at it things will be fine. Good luck.

[EternalOptimist]

Might have to see a lawyer at some stage to give 'er a warning.

I was with you up to this point, now I am wondering who is the mental one. How anyone could think this has a place in a relationship is beyond me.
You need to get some help, and your mates dont seem to be the right place to start.

[daviejones]

She sounds like she needs a slap. Get to it.

(PS: you do want to see those kids every day, don't you?)

Sounds better,.,,

[DS23]

whs too

[NickFitz]

Do you remember making vows?

Revisit them.

Marriage is a commitment, not a hobby.

You are supposed to be her friend, adviser, counsellor, shoulder to cry on, her rock.

She sounds like she needs your help. Get to it.

The decision you make now will determine whether you spend the rest of your lives together, or the rest of your lives bitter.

(PS: you do want to see those kids every day, don't you?)

WHS

And I don't care if "WHS" does become the "me too" de nos jours...

WHS

[shelby68]

I've 'eard from a few mates that women go absolutely *£$(%"£*! mental after the 2nd kid. flip me, it's true, she's going fliping mad at home.

I think I'll forget this "taking the Summer off larf" and get a fliping job, otherwise I'll to' 'er ...

Don't get me wrong, the kids are great, it's her moods and completely wacky behaviour I can stand, like she's got PMT all the time ...

Might have to see a lawyer at some stage to give 'er a warning.

You thought they were mental after having kids, tulip I must be over sensetive I thought they were mental all the time

[RichardCranium]

... she's going fliping mad at home.

... it's her moods and completely wacky behaviour I can stand, like she's got PMT all the time ...

Do you remember making vows?

Revisit them.

Marriage is a commitment, not a hobby.

You are supposed to be her friend, adviser, counsellor, shoulder to cry on, her rock.

She sounds like she needs your help. Get to it.

The decision you make now will determine whether you spend the rest of your lives together, or the rest of your lives bitter.

(PS: you do want to see those kids every day, don't you?)