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Originally posted by mudskipper View PostResponsibilities.
If the wife buggers off with her toyboy and leaves you with the kids, you're still not going to be living the bachelor life.
I regularly go on holiday on my own, or away for a weekend with friends - I enjoy it much more when there's no-one else to please and I'm not feeling responsible for anyone else's "good time". Thoroughly recommend it - married, single, or anywhere in between.
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Originally posted by Gibbon View PostActually, thinking about it, the biggest barrier from a good life to a great life is a wife!!
If the wife buggers off with her toyboy and leaves you with the kids, you're still not going to be living the bachelor life.
I regularly go on holiday on my own, or away for a weekend with friends - I enjoy it much more when there's no-one else to please and I'm not feeling responsible for anyone else's "good time". Thoroughly recommend it - married, single, or anywhere in between.
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Actually, thinking about it, the biggest barrier from a good life to a great life is a wife!!
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Originally posted by contractorinatractor View PostIncluding my other post above, have you considered therapy/counseling? Perhaps you have difficulty processing and talking about issues of the past. If you have a counselor/therapist you don't get on with, ditch them and find another. Must as with dating, it takes a while to find the right one.
Originally posted by Platypus View Post
I chose Tinder and it worked out great. Been in a new relationship for >1 year now .
Back to you though: singles holiday or cruise. I'm envious! Have fun.
EDIT: On balance, singles holiday, because there everyone is in the same position.
Originally posted by milanbenes View Postthis is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience
the responses in the main seem very helpful
actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun
I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children
over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend
all the best and good luck
Milan.
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Originally posted by milanbenes View Postthis is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience
the responses in the main seem very helpful
actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun
I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children
over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend
all the best and good luck
Milan.
Or maybe it's all complete bollocks.
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this is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience
the responses in the main seem very helpful
actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun
I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children
over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend
all the best and good luck
Milan.
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There's many people who would rather spend Christmas with friends rather than family, and if you have good friends who understand your circumstances, you could try asking some of them if you can join them.
But it's reliant on you having good friends that you are honest with. Some might tell you to get on your bike, but others might welcome you into their home.
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Originally posted by BR14 View PostWhy is being on your own at christmas any different from, say, feb 15th?? and why is it a problem? ..
To some extent, although probably not as much as the lonely people imagine, that is true. But having a sociable time with the in laws doesn't always equate to having a good time!
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Why is being on your own at christmas any different from, say, feb 15th??
and why is it a problem?
i spend a fair bit of my time alone, wholly by choice.
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Originally posted by contractorinatractor View PostTinder, or better still, Bumble. Bumble is mostly professionals and most aren't just after a quick tumble in the bumble, but rather to meet someone decent.
I chose Tinder and it worked out great. Been in a new relationship for >1 year now
Go on a singles holiday. I went with JustYou. These singles hols are mostly middle-aged women. The ones I met were mostly bonkers (in a nice British eccentric way). Little risk of a bunk up but terrific fun! I'm a bit cheesed off I only got to go on one of these before I met my new GF.
I almost did Christmas alone. Lunchtime visit to the pub followed by dinner for one and a box set, sounded good, but I decided against for fear of getting maudling and pissed on my own (this is never good whoever you are). Lucky for me I am on speakers with my my family and I did lunch there then to a mate's (and his missues) for more booze and talking bollox until late.
Back to you though: singles holiday or cruise. I'm envious! Have fun.
EDIT: On balance, singles holiday, because there everyone is in the same position.
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Originally posted by Big Blue Plymouth View PostAnyone ever done Christmas on their own?
This is my first one since my 15 year marriage ended.
Rest of my family, except my brother, are either dead or on no speakers.
So options are:
1) Spend it with brother and sister in law. Usually ends in tears or me retreating to garden shed with 6 pack.
2) Find somewhere sunny where they don't do Christmas. Somewhere possibly Muslim where I won't get decapitated.
3) Get all the normal stuff in, batten down the hatches and eat / drink myself into oblivion for a couple of days.
No 3 sound like most stress free option but how did it ever come to this 😣
Including my other post above, have you considered therapy/counseling? Perhaps you have difficulty processing and talking about issues of the past. If you have a counselor/therapist you don't get on with, ditch them and find another. Must as with dating, it takes a while to find the right one.Last edited by contractorinatractor; 19 November 2018, 12:04.
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