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Originally posted by SueEllen View PostNot if they grow into money grabbing adults like her.
It does happen.
"Oh daddy, it's so great to be at university where there are common people and not just West London girls." I created a monster.
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Originally posted by scooterscot View PostAt some point your children will grow older and become adults. As an individual they'll be mature enough to understand the position you're now facing today. At that time they'll appreciate the time you devoted to them, the time you spent with them, rather than the assets you purchased.
It does happen.
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At some point your children will grow older and become adults. As an individual they'll be mature enough to understand the position you're now facing today. At that time they'll appreciate the time you devoted to them, the time you spent with them, rather than the assets you purchased.
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Stop listening and talking to her. This is what solicitors are for. At some point, you have to realise that the dialogue has completely broken down.
It took me many years to learn that lesson.
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Originally posted by MPwannadecentincome View Post
I agree but she claims no-one will rent to her as she is not working - of course this is rubbish but it took her more than a year to find a proper rental in the meantime she was in a B&B. Oh and don't forget the Thatcher generation "ownership" is "better".
Another reason not to buy her a property for the kids is that you presume she is going to shack up or remarry - poor person - and then she will be tied to the property in a particular which will cause her difficulties in her new relationship. If she and the other person decides to buy a house together you will still be giving her a similar amount of money until the kids are move out to live with you or become 18.
Originally posted by MPwannadecentincome View PostYup no perjury so no basis for the court to approve a freezing order, hence it is just a threat. Strangely she is talking to a no win no fee shark so I don't know what lies she has told them.
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Originally posted by MPwannadecentincome View PostI can open my accounts to whoever a court approves but her issue is going to be about hidden money I suspect - but I don't have any hidden money.
Mediation on what - to offer to pay more than I had to under the already finalised court order?
the news about seeing someone else did come out unexpectly about 2 months ago.
I agree but she claims no-one will rent to her as she is not working - of course this is rubbish but it took her more than a year to find a proper rental in the meantime she was in a B&B. Oh and don't forget the Thatcher generation "ownership" is "better".
Yup no perjury so no basis for the court to approve a freezing order, hence it is just a threat. Strangely she is talking to a no win no fee shark so I don't know what lies she has told them.
I am already :
Its all nasty. friends & relatives have been through similar but most times the kids figure out who was unreasonable when they get older. Most I know have turned out alright where their parent showed they loved them.
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Originally posted by vetran View Postdid you get a final settlement in writing?
Can she identify where the money she believes you are hiding came from? Would you open your accounts to the CSA or court appointed expert (not hers).
Can you get her to mediation or at least offer.
Surely if you are seen to be reasonable she has to pay for the lawyer?
You started seeing someone else recently that seems to bring the nutty out in the ex.
Mediation on what - to offer to pay more than I had to under the already finalised court order?
the news about seeing someone else did come out unexpectly about 2 months ago.
Originally posted by SueEllen View PostHe needs his head examined if he's going to buy her a property to live in. There is nothing wrong with them living in rental accommodation until she sorts out her job prospects and if she never sorts them out it's her own tough luck.
He's better of sorting out his affairs so if the kids choose they can come and live with him.
Originally posted by NigelJK View PostBang on the money there.
+1 to Vetran, also point out that you have the court documents and if she believes you committed perjury (you didn't did you?) then go ahead. She won't get a legal aid solicitor for that claim and there's not a no-win no-fee shark that would take it either. You have paid/are paying your dues and should have sufficient access to your children to ensure they are being looked after properly (with your maintenance).
Originally posted by Bee View PostThis kind of divorce cases where the parents use the kids as a war weapon makes me sick.
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This kind of divorce cases where the parents use the kids as a war weapon makes me sick.
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Originally posted by NigelJK View PostBang on the money there.
+1 to Vetran, also point out that you have the court documents and if she believes you committed perjury (you didn't did you?) then go ahead. She won't get a legal aid solicitor for that claim and there's not a no-win no-fee shark that would take it either. You have paid/are paying your dues and should have sufficient access to your children to ensure they are being looked after properly (with your maintenance).
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He's better of sorting out his affairs so if the kids choose they can come and live with him.
+1 to Vetran, also point out that you have the court documents and if she believes you committed perjury (you didn't did you?) then go ahead. She won't get a legal aid solicitor for that claim and there's not a no-win no-fee shark that would take it either. You have paid/are paying your dues and should have sufficient access to your children to ensure they are being looked after properly (with your maintenance).
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Originally posted by Eirikur View PostGlad we made up a prenuptial agreement. But was made up outside of the UK, not sure if it will stand in court here
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Glad we made up a prenuptial agreement. But was made up outside of the UK, not sure if it will stand in court here
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Originally posted by vetran View Postfrom the back story I agree. Sounds like she is spiralling down.
However she has manged to get his finances locked and has found a leech to bleed him dry.
Of course love it or hate it she is the mum of her kids.
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Sheesh, these horror stories about divorce settlements are beyond belief.
Seems like one lesson from the above discussion is that any payments conceded as part of a final settlement for a specific purpose, such as buying a house, should be paid into an escrow account and withdrawable from there only for the agreed purpose at the time this is put into effect.
Just paying the partner (usually the ex-wife) up front for some planned future purchase is madness if they can simply piss it up the wall and then come back demanding another bite of the cherry.
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