Reply to: Mid-life Crisis may be ?

[tomtomagain]

Not planned though she wanted a kid but I wanted to wait another few years .... May be accidently forgot to take pill .... Pretty worried as I'm not sold on it tbh ... anyone else felt the same when told and did you come round to it over time ?

All I'm thinking now is OMFG, OMFG.

Ahh well. Time to grow up and be a man, not a kidult. You are nearly 40 after all.

But seriously of course you are thinking OMFG. Because your entire world has just been turned upside down.

But don't worry. There is every chance that in 18 months time you'll be posting on here saying how pleased ( but knackered ) you are.

Don't forget this fact. When the baby is born you are genetically programmed to love it, more deeply and fully than you have ever loved anything before.

[LondonManc]

Oh yes it was!!!

Snigger

She has proper done your legs mate!
Never mind, grit your teeth and make the best of it!

You can imagine the heartbroken scene before he woke up after she peed on that stick....

[IPMAN]

Dear deidre, in a few years time I will be 40, but for some reason this year I have totally had enough of working and just want to quit and do something totally different, the stuff I do I don't really enjoy in fact I hate IT tbh but £ is good, but the thought of going on like this is for another 20 years is making me depressed.

I have no other job to go to at the moment but I am on the verge of resigning (3 months notice), not sure if its a mid-life crisis and will pass, or if I should just go with it and quit ?

the issue here sounds like you've been placed as 'contractor' in perm position, this is illegal and wrong and explains why you feel the way you do. the problem is most people don't have a choice.

i've given up working via agencies only recently, but thats only because i don't need the £££ anymore. i've nearly doubled my asking rate and going out there looking for freelance.

[Dactylion]

Not planned though she wanted a kid but I wanted to wait another few years .... May be accidently forgot to take pill .... Pretty worried as I'm not sold on it tbh ... anyone else felt the same when told and did you come round to it over time ?

All I'm thinking now is OMFG, OMFG.

Oh yes it was!!!

Snigger

She has proper done your legs mate!
Never mind, grit your teeth and make the best of it!

[Platypus]

Mid life crisis? Don't talk to me about mid life crisis !!!

[PurpleGorilla]

OP, isn't the done thing nowadays to squeeze your moobs into some spandex and squash your ltd co on a thin small saddle?

http://bikeportland.org/wp-content/w...traitLycra.jpg

[original PM]

you think its a 'keepani**a' baby?

[vetran]

Not planned though she wanted a kid but I wanted to wait another few years .... May be accidently forgot to take pill .... Pretty worried as I'm not sold on it tbh ... anyone else felt the same when told and did you come round to it over time ?

All I'm thinking now is OMFG, OMFG.

You have 3 choices

1. Get rid of it - unlikely. Sounds like its an "Ooops" baby she wanted it and you got it. If you didn't you should of taken care of contraception.
2. MTFU and enjoy it
3. Get rid of her + the kid and get used to a Bedsit.


2 is pretty much the only choice IMHO.

Ours were planned but still very scary!

[ELBBUBKUNPS]

Not planned though she wanted a kid but I wanted to wait another few years .... May be accidently forgot to take pill .... Pretty worried as I'm not sold on it tbh ... anyone else felt the same when told and did you come round to it over time ?

All I'm thinking now is OMFG, OMFG.

[vetran]

There you go:







your future

[vetran]

Thanks for congrats, still in shock, one minute I'm trying to comb my hair next minute I finding out I'm going to be a dad. Bit worried as I have mixed emotions about it at the moment, misses a bit p*ssed off I'm not over the moon about it. May be I will become happier about it over time ....

if you were trying then she is being reasonable, it was the outcome of all that rampant sex you had. If CovBob's missus gets up the Duff he better have a big smile.

If you haven't planned it then you can retreat into "I wanted to be ready and I was taken by surprise, its great news but we haven't organised anything and it will torpedo our finances. I don't want our baby to starve!"

[LondonManc]

Thanks for congrats, still in shock, one minute I'm trying to comb my hair next minute I finding out I'm going to be a dad. Bit worried as I have mixed emotions about it at the moment, misses a bit p*ssed off I'm not over the moon about it. May be I will become happier about it over time ....

Coathanger, marbles at the top of the stairs, gin, lots of gin?

[ELBBUBKUNPS]

Thanks for congrats, still in shock, one minute I'm trying to comb my hair next minute I finding out I'm going to be a dad. Bit worried as I have mixed emotions about it at the moment, misses a bit p*ssed off I'm not over the moon about it. May be I will become happier about it over time ....

[LondonManc]

From this morning looks like I got to keep on working, went in partners bathroom draw thing to day to get a hair brush found 2 pregnancy testing kits used and they were both postive said 'Pregnant' on both . To say I'm in shock is an under statement she is on the pill. She left house before me this morning and told me she did the test today was going to tell me later face to face .... Shocked.com

Looks like you'll have to go in goal now you're getting on a bit.

[vetran]

up until i turned 40 i was stressed

stressed mainly because I did not think i was doing a good enough job so I would work long hard hours trying to please everyone so I would not get sacked (have missus and 2 kids)

anyone hit 40 and had a bit of mid life crisis moment

and i just then thought why the fook am i getting stressed about

so had a word with myself and now I do not stress pretty much come and go as I please, wfh a day or 2 a week.

I realised it was not the job i was in but my attitude to it - do not get me wrong early on a few of the more 'choice d1<kheads' who i work with started trying to make a big deal of it - had a few choice words and they fe<ked off back into the woodwork

then had a chat with line manager and one of the directors and they said doing a great job, good to see you have started to be less rushed and more considered in your approach keep it up and things will continue to go well etc

so there you go was not the 'job' but my attitude to it

Yep suspected heart attack, scary.

Cut back, WFH, work my normal hours and don't suffer users.

They still pay me and grade me OK so much happier.