Do You Show Enough Deference at Work?

[Mattski]

I only show deference to those who can best me in physical combat or Connect 4.

[vetran]

That's Mr Worm to you.

why do the girls call you 'Lil worm' then?

[unixman]

I think we all talk nice to the guy who signs time sheets and is responsible for renewing our contract. That's as it should be.

Everyone else just gets detached courtesy. But if I met the client CEO, I probably would be a little more deferential, TBH.

If you are not planning to seek renewal you can speak a bit more freely. But don't forget you still want to leave a nice smell behind.

[vwdan]

I don't show any particular deference to anyone. I mean, don't get me wrong, I won't waltz into the CEO's office and start chatting like we've been best mates - I'm professional and courteous, but nobody is above me

[Gumbo Robot]

I sit opposite a permie PM who is only interested in what comes out of his own mouth & most of that is directed at those who sit around him that he considers to be his peers.

As I'm not considered one of his peers, I tend to get cut off before I get to the end of what I'm saying. Very rude but as I've only been here for just a week, I'll let him have his fun. For now....

He's spent the whole morning so far banging on about how he used to work at an RAF site where his office was a hut 20 feet from the end of the runway.

Had to hold the desk down every time a jet took off to stop his monitor falling off he did & fighter pilots would come in to have a cup of tea with him to share the details of all their tally-ho exploits.

I'm getting too old & cynical for this lark....

[tractor]

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I insist on being called either Sir or Mr MF at work. The same for this site in fact.

Yes Reek, of course you do.

[MarillionFan]

yet at NLYUK's place you like being called 'worm'?

That's Mr Worm to you.

[vetran]

I insist on being called either Sir or Mr MF at work. The same for this site in fact.

yet at NLYUK's place you like being called 'worm'?

[MarillionFan]

I tend to talk to people at work the same as I would anyone else.

I sometimes get the feeling, though, that some people don't like this. People who are in nominally superior positions; the feeling I get from them is that I am not metaphorically doffing the cap as much as I should be.

Seems to be more prevalent in bigger organisations with more politics....

I insist on being called either Sir or Mr MF at work. The same for this site in fact.

[original PM]

Yup indeed they are just human beings and often people in high places are not their on merit.

Having said that I tend to mirror so if someone is quietly spoken then that is how a act. If someone is an arrogant loudmothed tool then I don't pull my punches.

[PurpleGorilla]

There got to be some banter - and it has to be two way.

[Halo Jones]

The only thing I change depending on who I talk to is the level of swearing.
Respect is shown where people have earned it not, because of a job title.

[Gumbo Robot]

I tend to talk to people at work the same as I would anyone else.

I sometimes get the feeling, though, that some people don't like this. People who are in nominally superior positions; the feeling I get from them is that I am not metaphorically doffing the cap as much as I should be.

Seems to be more prevalent in bigger organisations with more politics....