Reply to: Divorce Solicitors that specialise in Contractors with a Ltd Company

[northernladyuk]

If her solicitor says that the company is worth 83k, hand it over to the ex in lieu of 83 months' worth of 1k payments.

Then start a new company.

[Hertsseasider]

When the solicitors get involved you may find that your amicable separation becomes somewhat less so.. Good luck.

+1

Do everything possible before resorting to Solicitors. Make a better offer even if it grates, you'll still end up better off.

Best of luck.

[BrilloPad]

When the solicitors get involved you may find that your amicable separation becomes somewhat less so.. Good luck.

Its a bit like your house being on fire. The fire brigade turn up. And pour napalm on it.

And what they do is done in secret.

The focus is on the lawyers, then the women, then the kids, then the man.

And women expect support for equality in the workplace.....

[gnarledcontractor]

To be honest I'd echo his sentiments and I'm only just at the Form E stage of what has - so far - been an amicable separation. No kids (luckily) but being the higher earner is sounding more like it's going to get me screwed badly, to the point where I just wouldn't want to risk going through it again. In my case we've already split assets of £80k equally but given that we earn quite different amounts she wanted an additional £50k lump sum. My generosity topped out at £30k so we failed at mediation and now got to see what the solicitors think... the fun and games begins!

When the solicitors get involved you may find that your amicable separation becomes somewhat less so.. Good luck.

[BrilloPad]

Flippin heck BP - bad experience I guess? Probably too late for most of us - I get the idea that I'd be shafted if I ever got divorced.

It is not too late for my kids. The elder BP son is already determined not to get married. My brother seems to have done very well sowing his wild oats and never getting married.

[Willapp]

Flippin heck BP - bad experience I guess? Probably too late for most of us - I get the idea that I'd be shafted if I ever got divorced.

To be honest I'd echo his sentiments and I'm only just at the Form E stage of what has - so far - been an amicable separation. No kids (luckily) but being the higher earner is sounding more like it's going to get me screwed badly, to the point where I just wouldn't want to risk going through it again. In my case we've already split assets of £80k equally but given that we earn quite different amounts she wanted an additional £50k lump sum. My generosity topped out at £30k so we failed at mediation and now got to see what the solicitors think... the fun and games begins!

[psychocandy]

Does your 8 year old have learning difficulties? Are they statemented?

The children(up to 18) do need to come first.

You made a huge mistake of going this alone without a solicitor. All solicitors are effectively PAYG. Did her solicitor advise you to get your own solicitor? If not, they are in the poo.

I did the finances without a solicitor - including representing myself in court - but then I had an incredible McKenzie friend.

Go and get a solicitor. Do not contact her solicitor yourself again.

Did you not do any research first? http://forums.contractoruk.com/gener...following.html

Though there have been plenty of warnings about marriage since 2002 when f4j bought it to the world's attention.

Just to be clear - if you are a man - DO NOT GET MARRIED. DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN.

There again, happiness and contentment are over-rated.....

Flippin heck BP - bad experience I guess? Probably too late for most of us - I get the idea that I'd be shafted if I ever got divorced.

[BrilloPad]

He won't get less work but different and more rewarding work plus the pleasure of having a closer relationship with his son.

Agreed. However it will not happen. The family (NK) courts take the side of the children. And the money follows that. And the women are assumed to have the child's best interests. The men are not.

ex-mrs-bp held onto the kids until she had the money. then handed them over......

[SueEllen]

Have you considered being the main parent? That way you get all the joys, less work and the pleasure of seeing the ex’s ideal disappear down the tubes.

He won't get less work but different and more rewarding work plus the pleasure of having a closer relationship with his son.

[eek]

Bite her hand off NOW !!!! take the deal otherwise £35K will soon go on legal fees anyway, then you will still need to pay!!

When does that £1k a month finish

[Lance]

Have you considered being the main parent? That way you get all the joys, less work and the pleasure of seeing the ex’s ideal disappear down the tubes.

[tarbera]

Bite her hand off

H I just received a proposal from her solicitor asking fro 35K more and also a spousal maintenance of £1,000k a month. .

Bite her hand off NOW !!!! take the deal otherwise £35K will soon go on legal fees anyway, then you will still need to pay!!

[BrilloPad]

That was a polite version of what I was going to write.

Even if the kid isn't disabled sorting out and paying for childcare for the few hours after school is a PITTA. (Presuming the workplace is also happy you turn up around 10am.) Then there are school holidays to manage. If there are no nearby family/close friends' then you are fecked.

In short until the kid is in secondary school and can prove they aren't a danger to themselves - and this depends on the individual kid - they need an adult or a sensible older teenager around.

Even if not a danger to themselves, they may need extra support in many ways.

You are always polite. Unlike me.....

[SueEllen]

I was thinking that. I have 2 disabled children - MrsBP would struggle with even a part time job.

That was a polite version of what I was going to write.

Even if the kid isn't disabled sorting out and paying for childcare for the few hours after school is a PITTA. (Presuming the workplace is also happy you turn up around 10am.) Then there are school holidays to manage. If there are no nearby family/close friends' then you are fecked.

In short until the kid is in secondary school and can prove they aren't a danger to themselves - and this depends on the individual kid - they need an adult or a sensible older teenager around.

[BrilloPad]

Many many thanks - got the ball rolling on the first 2 points and on point 3, well, once bitten, twice shy! :-)

And point 1?