Women and Pies

[FredHead]

Oh, and the funniest thing was when we split up, the said best friend made multiple passes at me which I declined. Took her months to get the message though. She wasn't that fat either.

[tommydunn]

I think one or two people on this thread need to take some happy pills. Most men are happy with there woman and vice versa.

[IsItOver]

Yes, we have got to a very unhappy stage of things re relationships in this country.

Whilst I think both sides can be to blame in a break-up, and often are, I agree, and I know nearly all my male friends and colleagues feel the same, that unreasonable demands, needs, wants and expectations from women, British women, is often the main cause... not forgetting the nasty bile from their 'friends'.

I got off VERY lightly compared to most men who, as I now know from the horror stories told to me, have lost their homes, their savings and have been banned access to their children. I lent my ex 3.5K for a car which she now denies all knowledge off but I now look on it as the best 3.5K spent on education that I have have ever spent.

And I now know why more and more of my male friends refuse to date British women - I am amazed how many men I know in their 40s and 50s who either only date British women under 30 - the argument is that they are not yet 'damaged' - or who only date non-British women. This applies equally to men who have never been married, but who have been in a relationship at least once before with a British woman, or men who are divorced.

The saddest aspect to this is that women seem to be realising that they are unhappy and some, albeit slowly, are begining to realise that the problem lies with their gender and all the rubbish that has been built up over the past 40 years, yet they seem incapable of addressing it.

[FredHead]

I think one or two people on this thread need to take some happy pills. Most men are happy with there woman and vice versa.

I'd say the divorce statistics being at 50% or thereabouts says quite clearly that's not the case.

[Board Game Geek]

Good grief...depressing stuff.

I count myself very lucky that me and Mrs BGG have been together for 14 years now (she was 16, I was 21).

We've had 3 arguments in that period (ok, 1 was a more of a minor disagreement) and neither of us can remember what they were about.

We've had tense times, when we have both been unemployed and money was tight, and we lived off cheap food, but we've had more good than bad and remember these the most.

I can't say there is any "magic formula", apart from communication, understanding, a driven desire to put the other's needs first, and a genuine committment to ensure that each other is spiritually and emotionally fulfilled.

Little gestures too.

For example, Mrs. BGG was doing stock take last Friday and was due in a 9pm, instead of 5pm. Knowing she'd be pretty tired, I prepared a bath, bought a bunch on flowers and scattered the petals in the bath, festooned the bathroom with candles, placed a small table in there with a glass of her favourite wine, a box of chocolates and a book she is reading, and prepared dinner on a simmer so I could serve when she got out of the bath.

The look on her face was the only reward I desired, there was no ulterior motive, and even after 14 years, it's nice to prepare random acts of appreciation, because of the gooey feeling you get.

[xoggoth]

Mrs x and I have been together for about 30 years but it's mainly because we're too boring and ugly to find anyone else and too lazy to look.

[tommydunn]

Xog,

With your penchant for fat bottomed woman, you could have a field day these days. All you need is a bit of motivation and all those fat bottos will fall into your lap.

Get going

[blondiebeeb]

I was with an ex for over two years, I got together with a guy who was 11 1/2 stone and ended up with a guy who was 13 1/2 stone-he was lazy and useless and had a highly inflated opinion of himself. In the mean time, I lost 1 1/2 stone, so it works both ways.

Now, my new partner is a personal trainer and verges on the obsessed side of fit.

[rebeccaloos]

I am sure it has its benefits, but isn't there something a bit odd (not to mention irritating) about a man obsessed with his appreance?
I wouldn't like it

[blondiebeeb]

you are right Rebecca, it certainly does have its benefits!!!! If he was obsessed with his hair or face, then that would be offputting, but he is just verging on the obsessed with getting fat.

Stupid, but I think it comes from when he was younger and someone told him he was fat.