Oi - who moved my post !

[pisces]

Sounds like she's hedging.

Realise that such a girl will only be worth a shag or two as if she drops him for you, she will eventually drop you for someone else she sees as better again.

[chef]

there are plenty of single women out there, some women just don't like being single and hence will go out with any scrote.

like this you mean ?

[realityhack]

Is she the creative type? Pop out for a swift paint after work. Likes or new to London? This is quite a fun little experience. Or you could take a select few workmates including her to Lucky Voice. Assuming you're in London that is.

Something casual, different, not much effort or cost, something that little bit out of the ordinary and not too formal or too like a proper 'date'.

Are you in London?

Do you know what her (or your mutual) interests are?

[lukemg]

Oi, no-one reads light relief you muppets, all the sh!te posts I have to read in general, I post something interesting to me for a laugh and to get some opinions and some twonk moves it to light relief - twice. No wonder people keep leaving !

[SallyAnne]

Be direct, life is short, Say something like, "Look, I dont want to be too forward, lets cut to the chase, fancy a f**k?", If that doesnt work propose to her.

[hyperD]

If that doesnt work propose to her.

Why bother with that? Simply give her half your money and your house and be done with it.

[SallyAnne]

Hi Luke!! I cant believe I missed this yesterday!!

Its hard to answer this one without knowing what kind of lass we're talking about.

There are 2 types of lasses: -

1) Lovely girls (who are always genuine and honest)
2) Evil b*tches (who will have many blokes tappy lapping around after them, each one of those blokes thinking they're in with a chance...none of them actually being in with ANY chance!)

Now then - if she's type No. 1, then you should definately keep doing as you are. RH was 100% spot on when he said "dont change anything - she likes you as you are". Cause she does! She has a bloke, but the fact that she's gone for lunch with a guy who fancies her implies that she's a bit bored with her current boyf and is shopping around to see whats out there.
I'd imagine a few more lunch dates, then a boozy night - she'll be putty in your hands.
And yes you're right - if the hair was down and the lipstick was on, then she was out to impress (and we dont do that for blokes we're not interested in).

If she is type No. 2 - well this is up to you. If you enjoy being in her company, then just keep meetnig for lunch and stuff, but be realistic - it's never going to happen! So dont put your life on hold. Just enjoy a bit of company, DO NOT let her use you as a wallet, or a constant shoulder to cry on....just be real about the whole thing, and accept you are NEVER going to get a shag. EVER!

The hard part for you is working out which type of girl she is mate.

And btw - that description of yourself was absolutely fantastic - you've always sounded like a top bloke, and I think you'll probably find you're sexy too. Confident, funny, sweet and lovely - girls find that incredibly sexy in a man, so you're probably way more of a catch than you give yourself credit for.

ps. as a side line, I know a girl who went out with work on Wednesday, she has a bloke, yet she ended up snogging her permie boss! He asked her yesterday if she'd like to go out for lunch and she was like "NO WAY!!!!!!" a) she didn't fancy him and b) she loves her lad, it was just a drunken mistake.
So that fact that this lass was sober anyway AND went out for lunch AND had a great time and wants to do it again.....the signs are looking good mate!

[hyperD]

There are 2 types of lasses: -

1) Lovely girls (who are always genuine and honest)
2) Evil b*tches (who will have many blokes tappy lapping around after them,

Lets simplify this further:

1) Ugly girls
2) Pretty girls

[realityhack]

You've both missed the third option: Girls who don't know/haven't decided whether they're evil or not. I know a few.

[lukemg]

Hi Luke!! I cant believe I missed this yesterday!!
Its hard to answer this one without knowing what kind of lass we're talking about.
There are 2 types of lasses: -
1) Lovely girls (who are always genuine and honest)
2) Evil b*tches (who will have many blokes tappy lapping around after them, each one of those blokes thinking they're in with a chance...none of them actually being in with ANY chance!)
Now then - if she's type No. 1, then you should definately keep doing as you are. RH was 100% spot on when he said "dont change anything - she likes you as you are". Cause she does! She has a bloke, but the fact that she's gone for lunch with a guy who fancies her implies that she's a bit bored with her current boyf and is shopping around to see whats out there.
I'd imagine a few more lunch dates, then a boozy night - she'll be putty in your hands.
And yes you're right - if the hair was down and the lipstick was on, then she was out to impress (and we dont do that for blokes we're not interested in).
If she is type No. 2 - well this is up to you. If you enjoy being in her company, then just keep meetnig for lunch and stuff, but be realistic - it's never going to happen! So dont put your life on hold. Just enjoy a bit of company, DO NOT let her use you as a wallet, or a constant shoulder to cry on....just be real about the whole thing, and accept you are NEVER going to get a shag. EVER!
The hard part for you is working out which type of girl she is mate.

Thanks Sal, thought you would shed some light.
All girls like attention but I don't think she is a total player e.g. being nice to blokes and they think she is interested and get over keen. If anything she has to be careful about saying anything because blokes always hear what they want to !
She emailed me after the night out to say I wasn't really her type so that is fair enough.
Boyfriend is fairly recent, just some wayne (generic, personality free, good looking b@stard) and she has been on a few dates with him.
He sounds as much fun as scabies from what she says so I am just trying to set up a contrast to him ! It is very rare that women take an instant liking to me but much more common that I grow on them over time (This p1sses me off but you work with what you have !)
At first, I was just doing this for a bit of distraction at work and to see if I could for a laugh. Trouble is, the more I get to know her the more I like her. I already knew she was fit but expected the normal 'pretty-girl syndrome' = self obsessed, never had to develop personality etc She has thrown me off by being smart and funny.
I still don't fancy my chances, I am going to leave it until next week, hope she is thinking about me a bit and then try to get her out for a night (I am down for a party near her in a couple of weeks but could go on the Friday or Sunday and meet her)
If not, well I will have to settle for a couple more lunches, she hasn't been leading me so unless she turns up the heat I will make sure I don't make a cock of myself !
One thing - I am going out with an old workmate one night next week, should I mention it to new girl, since we are mates I should be able to, might set the cogs turning ?