Brace yourself, this situation will likely test you right to the limits and maybe beyond and the money will be a tiny part of it.
There are calculators that you can check out to see what the CSA would start with, think its 15% but obviously it gets complicated with minimum salary + Divi’s. I think if you tried too hard to disguise earnings they would be trying to include all sorts as a reasonable estimate of earnings but doubt they could claim all Limited Co turnover is yours.
I have always paid outside the CSA framework but a bit beyond what I would expect they would demand. I have always tried to relate payments to actual requirement but ex has used threats of access, CSA etc to ensure she is getting plenty out of me. I can afford it and don’t let it bother me much, I want access, which I get so that is my primary concern.
This has not been amicable and everything exists as an uneasy truce that can explode easily (not from me, I just want the minimum amount of grief).
Brother’s ex-wife has pushed every button she can find, turned the kids against him (they are early 20’s now and distant)frequent CSA re-assessments, blocking access, packed in her job as a dentist and expected him to bankroll everything, contacted his new wife (many years after they split up) to complain, contacting my parents to moan about him, calling the police when he snatched his car keys off her when she wouldn’t let him leave the house etc. not saying he is a saint but he has been through the mill !
Things can easily escalate into this.
Plus add in that before you know it (might already be going on ? its usually the trigger) some wayne will be sat on your sofa, watching your telly and bringing up your kids while you subsidise their lifestyle and there are lots of opportunities for stress.
Oh – and when you meet someone else, brace yourself for her not reacting as great to your kids as you might like, many do but I know lots who tolerate the kids at best, probably works better if they have kids too, although that does mean you adapting to them too.
I wish you the very best of luck, don’t cave in to every demand or request and it does tend to get better over time, they move on, so do you and if you can get good access it can make the rest of the grief survivable.
Gulp….
There are calculators that you can check out to see what the CSA would start with, think its 15% but obviously it gets complicated with minimum salary + Divi’s. I think if you tried too hard to disguise earnings they would be trying to include all sorts as a reasonable estimate of earnings but doubt they could claim all Limited Co turnover is yours.
I have always paid outside the CSA framework but a bit beyond what I would expect they would demand. I have always tried to relate payments to actual requirement but ex has used threats of access, CSA etc to ensure she is getting plenty out of me. I can afford it and don’t let it bother me much, I want access, which I get so that is my primary concern.
This has not been amicable and everything exists as an uneasy truce that can explode easily (not from me, I just want the minimum amount of grief).
Brother’s ex-wife has pushed every button she can find, turned the kids against him (they are early 20’s now and distant)frequent CSA re-assessments, blocking access, packed in her job as a dentist and expected him to bankroll everything, contacted his new wife (many years after they split up) to complain, contacting my parents to moan about him, calling the police when he snatched his car keys off her when she wouldn’t let him leave the house etc. not saying he is a saint but he has been through the mill !
Things can easily escalate into this.
Plus add in that before you know it (might already be going on ? its usually the trigger) some wayne will be sat on your sofa, watching your telly and bringing up your kids while you subsidise their lifestyle and there are lots of opportunities for stress.
Oh – and when you meet someone else, brace yourself for her not reacting as great to your kids as you might like, many do but I know lots who tolerate the kids at best, probably works better if they have kids too, although that does mean you adapting to them too.
I wish you the very best of luck, don’t cave in to every demand or request and it does tend to get better over time, they move on, so do you and if you can get good access it can make the rest of the grief survivable.
Gulp….
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