Contractor Dilema

[Old Hack]

Your kids are not 'growing up'...ok technically they are, but that's the sort of thing that you say once they have left school! I fail to see how taking them to the states for a year is going to help them in terms of their education, given 2 of them are still at school.

I think what is missed, is that once the eldest takes her 11 plus, we're not goign to be realistically able to do anything like this until they leave school, as once the eldest leaves, the other is over 11, and once she leaves, the other will be. So it's kind of now or never, as do not want to unsettle them once they're in the next stage of school.

[northernladuk]

I would still be worried about taking the kids out of school for 12 months. At the ages of 9 and 6/7 they will miss a lot and it will be hard for them to catch up.

This is totally my take. There is no need to take a year out of your kids life to screw up the rest of it for them. Regardless of how bright they are and how much you teach them at home they will drop out of the system like a rock unless you work like a bloody mad man with them, and you won't with 3! It will affect their grades, and it will affect their future for what? A year they will only vaguley remember (I don't remember much at 1). I personally think it would be unfair to take 3 kids out of school to indulge a whim of your missus. You do that stuff when they are settled.

Spend more time with your family so your family doesn't feel the need to do this, take 3/4 good solid holidays a year, refresh and start again. Happy kids, happy family and life goes on. Knee jerk reaction is not the way out, particularly when it involves the future of your 3 kids.

I think a lifestyle change is needed rather than 'oh tulip' planning.
All IMO.

[oracleslave]

This is totally my take. There is no need to take a year out of your kids life to screw up the rest of it for them. Regardless of how bright they are and how much you teach them at home they will drop out of the system like a rock unless you work like a bloody mad man with them, and you won't with 3! It will affect their grades, and it will affect their future for what? A year they will only vaguley remember (I don't remember much at 1). I personally think it would be unfair to take 3 kids out of school to indulge a whim of your missus. You do that stuff when they are settled.

Spend more time with your family so your family doesn't feel the need to do this, take 3/4 good solid holidays a year, refresh and start again. Happy kids, happy family and life goes on. Knee jerk reaction is not the way out, particularly when it involves the future of your 3 kids.

I think a lifestyle change is needed rather than 'oh tulip' planning.
All IMO.

WHS. Fortunately it's all bollocks and only happening in Zoiderman's mind so moot point

[SupremeSpod]

Hmm why ? sounded like a reasonable question to post on here. Unless you think its the sockie of someone who received a permanent ban.

Just thought that I'd fix that for you.

[NorthWestPerm2Contr]

This is totally my take. There is no need to take a year out of your kids life to screw up the rest of it for them. Regardless of how bright they are and how much you teach them at home they will drop out of the system like a rock unless you work like a bloody mad man with them, and you won't with 3! It will affect their grades, and it will affect their future for what? A year they will only vaguley remember (I don't remember much at 1). I personally think it would be unfair to take 3 kids out of school to indulge a whim of your missus. You do that stuff when they are settled.

Spend more time with your family so your family doesn't feel the need to do this, take 3/4 good solid holidays a year, refresh and start again. Happy kids, happy family and life goes on. Knee jerk reaction is not the way out, particularly when it involves the future of your 3 kids.

I think a lifestyle change is needed rather than 'oh tulip' planning.
All IMO.

WHS

[Old Hack]

This is totally my take. There is no need to take a year out of your kids life to screw up the rest of it for them. Regardless of how bright they are and how much you teach them at home they will drop out of the system like a rock unless you work like a bloody mad man with them, and you won't with 3! It will affect their grades, and it will affect their future for what? A year they will only vaguley remember (I don't remember much at 1). I personally think it would be unfair to take 3 kids out of school to indulge a whim of your missus. You do that stuff when they are settled.

Spend more time with your family so your family doesn't feel the need to do this, take 3/4 good solid holidays a year, refresh and start again. Happy kids, happy family and life goes on. Knee jerk reaction is not the way out, particularly when it involves the future of your 3 kids.

I think a lifestyle change is needed rather than 'oh tulip' planning.
All IMO.

I do appreciate all of the replies. However, I do not understand why people think taking the kids out of school for 12 months would affect their schooling. Maybe I am being absurd thinking it would benefit them, but I genuinely think, academically, it would be better for them; I think we could improve them academically.

Maybe I am being massively deluded here about this, and it will affect them, which I would hate myself for.

Hmm

[NorthWestPerm2Contr]

I do appreciate all of the replies. However, I do not understand why people think taking the kids out of school for 12 months would affect their schooling. Maybe I am being absurd thinking it would benefit them, but I genuinely think, academically, it would be better for them; I think we could improve them academically.

Maybe I am being massively deluded here about this, and it will affect them, which I would hate myself for.

Hmm

Yes I think you are being massively deluded. Taking a few months off (summer holiday + week at end of academic year + week at start of academic year) is fine, but making them miss a whole year will be really bad for them.

[northernladuk]

I do appreciate all of the replies. However, I do not understand why people think taking the kids out of school for 12 months would affect their schooling. Maybe I am being absurd thinking it would benefit them, but I genuinely think, academically, it would be better for them; I think we could improve them academically.

Maybe I am being massively deluded here about this, and it will affect them, which I would hate myself for.

Hmm

Academically means squat if you don't get the grades. You do not get into a decent college/university with a knowledge of Canadian beers and girls. Bearing in mind you are going to need a damn good degree just to get a job in 10-15 years denying your kids of this is close to criminal.

You are being massively deluded.

[northernladuk]

Yes I think you are being massively deluded. Taking a few months off (summer holiday + week at end of academic year + week at start of academic year) is fine, but making them miss a whole year will be really bad for them.

I thought you had agree with Lockhouse to do it in this thread? Make your mind up.

http://forums.contractoruk.com/gener...ml#post1570257

[northernladuk]

WHS. Fortunately it's all bollocks and only happening in Zoiderman's mind so moot point

Old Hack is Zoiderman?????