Divorce lawyer who understands contractors

[Spacecadet]

It's cold outside and Nigella is on TV.

I'm going nowhere.

ah probably best to get her out of the house then

[Sysman]

Well, she needs at least the following;

Wellies for doing the gardening/washing your car.
Slippers so she doesn't wake you up when you're having a doze in front of the TV.
Trainers for down the gym so she doesn't get a lardy arse.
Decent walking shoes for the food shopping.
Driving shoes for picking you up from the pub.
And probably some working boots for DIY work around the house.

There may be more but I'm just going by Mrs PL.

Hiking boots for mountain walks. Double up as getting to work gear when it's snowy.
Smart shoes for work.
Casual shoes.
Posh shoes for special occasions.

It doesn't half add up!

[doodab]

Winter / hiking boots
General purpose waterproof goretex shoes suitable for light trekking
Brown shoes I can wear with jeans that are a bit smarter than the general purpose ones around town
Suit / dress shoes x 2
Cycling shoes x 2 (different cleats on different bikes)
Trainers
Tennis shoes
Snowboarding boots
Sandal thong type things for the beach

[Old Greg]

Well, she needs at least the following;

Wellies for doing the gardening/washing your car.
Slippers so she doesn't wake you up when you're having a doze in front of the TV.
Trainers for down the gym so she doesn't get a lardy arse.
Decent walking shoes for the food shopping.
Driving shoes for picking you up from the pub.
And probably some working boots for DIY work around the house.

There may be more but I'm just going by Mrs PL.

Don't forget Mrs PL's tiny locket to keep your genitalia nice and safe.

[Gibbon]

On the plus side, things start at 50/50 then move from there. Unless you're on a £1k+ a day you're unlikely to lose ALL your assets AND end up with a crippling spousal maintenance bill. You'll pay for your kid at 15% after pension contribs and HMRC's pound of flesh, but spousal maint is something that you can buy out by giving up a larger slice of assets, giving you a clean break with the missus at least. I did that and am much happier for it. Don't fall for the 'nominal maintenance of 1p a year' gag either - clean break needs to mean just that.

With the parental alienation then you really need to get a contact schedule in place NOW and go to court to get a contact order sealed if its not what you want / being observed. Regular, predictable contact (and I'd suggest weekly in person and every day / opther day on the phone) is essential and EFFECTIVE in combating divorce poison. Lots of resources / help out there, PM me if you want any pointers - sounds like you are where I was 2 years ago. Good luck.

Some very good advice here.

1. Clean break is the aim, nothing less even if it costs you 75%. You have the earning potential to make it up. You don't want to be sharing your pension out at 65!

2. CSA is not the dragon it was. The 15% is can be reduced further if you have overnight custody which is the next aim.

3. Acceptance. This can be more difficult but is imperative to a positive outcome. Don't do the bitter thing; concentrate on getting a life back and a different but just as worthy relationship with your kid. Fortitude and mental strength will see you through. Don't enter into tit for tat and never lose your temper in public or on the phone.

4. I speak from experience, and now 14 years later I have 3 CSA payments to go. There is an end. Don't make the same mistake again, if you get married again make sure it is as equals in every way. Some hot young thing may suck your cock dry, but your wallet is also in view.

HTH.

[Old Greg]

Some very good advice here.

1. Clean break is the aim, nothing less even if it costs you 75%. You have the earning potential to make it up. You don't want to be sharing your pension out at 65!

2. CSA is not the dragon it was. The 15% is can be reduced further if you have overnight custody which is the next aim.

3. Acceptance. This can be more difficult but is imperative to a positive outcome. Don't do the bitter thing; concentrate on getting a life back and a different but just as worthy relationship with your kid. Fortitude and mental strength will see you through. Don't enter into tit for tat and never lose your temper in public or on the phone.

4. I speak from experience, and now 14 years later I have 3 CSA payments to go. There is an end. Don't make the same mistake again, if you get married again make sure it is as equals in every way. Some hot young thing may suck your cock dry, but your wallet is also in view.

HTH.

As Claudius I could tell you.

[MaryPoppins]

What a sad thread. Both from the perspective of the amount of bad divorce experiences here, and the fact that Sockpuppet thinks three pairs of shoes will do a girl.

Sheesh.

[SueEllen]

What a sad thread. Both from the perspective of the amount of bad divorce experiences here, and the fact that Sockpuppet thinks three pairs of shoes will do a girl.

Sheesh.

I have only three pairs of shoes.....




....that I currently wear to client site.

[Old Greg]

I have only three pairs of shoes.....

But you only have one foot so they count as six.

[Sockpuppet]

What a sad thread. Both from the perspective of the amount of bad divorce experiences here, and the fact that Sockpuppet thinks three pairs of shoes will do a girl.

Sheesh.

Would it help if I refused to recognize Flip Flops as "shoes" but instead as the offspring of satan?