Quick question before I speak to my solicitor....

[jmo21]

yes but if he wants her to buy him out, it doesnt have to be 50%

he could stop paying in now, and she could owe him x%

thats what I did with this place I am in now

Of course, loads of ways to do it, so long as it's a legal agreement.

Other questions are, what if she can't afford the full payments? and what if she wants him to buy her out?

[Old Greg]

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[2BIT]

You have to pay for the child till she is 18. Nothing to do with who lives with her or if she marries Bill Gates even. Dont shirk your responsibilities, it's your daughter FFS.

i probably wouldm't have responding like this, having actually read the original post

[2BIT]

Jesus Russel, you arrogant tw*t

Do you actually know anything about my situation? I also pay £700 per month towards my daughter's welfare on top of the mortgage (so that's £1400 per month) which is due until she's 18. I also paid a lump sum of £10,000 from an inheritance last year. I didn't mention this in my post as I didn't think it was relevant to the question.

I adore my daughter and she stays with me 2 or 3 nights per week on average. I get on well with the ex and her boyfriend.

So get off your high horse and stop jumping to conclusions.

I asked a simple and very specific question about the mortgage. Try reading the post......

he's a troll mate, just trying to wind you up - unfortunately I don't think you could hide posts by particular people

[russell]

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I've heard stories of people making an "amicable" agreement between each other, the guy paying for 10 years then the ex saying he never paid a penny or taking him to CSA and him having to back pay etc. If you get it all legal at the start no one can cause problems later.

[russell]

he's a troll mate, just trying to wind you up - unfortunately I don't think you could hide posts by particular people

The original post came over as someone wanting to worm out of paying for their child's keep. Once the Op revealed more of the backstory..well then it all looked different and he seems like a stand up bloke.

[northernladuk]

Though that might change if she finds out that I ploughed one of her mates shortly after we split up.

You da man!!! <beats chest>

[ilovehr]

Fair enough Russell

The original post came over as someone wanting to worm out of paying for their child's keep. Once the Op revealed more of the backstory..well then it all looked different and he seems like a stand up bloke.

Maybe my reaction was a bit out of order and I should have added some back story....

Anyway, everything is bound by a legal agreement, but the consent order doesn't actually specify that part of what I pay the ex should be allocated against the mortgage. Maybe that's my fault or the fault of my solicitor....

We really are still on good terms and the thing that's foremost in both of our minds is looking after the welfare of our daughter. I'm sure that if my ex's boyfriend moves in, then I will be able to have a chat with the ex and agree a reduction in the periodic payments. All I wanted to do was get an idea of what my rights were IF she was to dig her heels in. Really it's trying to balance what my solicitor would say (he's more of a "do what's best for yourself and sod her" kind of person) against doing right for the ex and the sprog.

I'm meeting with her tonight to pick the youngster up so no doubt we'll talk about it then. I'll keep you all posted.....

[northernladuk]

Now, when my daugher was staying with me the other night, she mentioned that the ex's boyfriend was thinking about moving in with the ex. I don't have a problem with that, he's a decent bloke and my daughter seems to get on well with him.

From my experience of dating ladies with kids the father supporting his family is most definately in the minority. My present partner gets next to nothing on an adhoc basis which I am sure is pretty common. I moved in so I took on my half of the bills and responsibility. If I were the new guy in your story I would have offered to pay my way as I now have responsiblity and by the same token expect the fathers input to drop a little. Mortgage payments would have to stay as it is their investment. I would not put to mortgage with no come back. Bills, day to day stuff, hols and entertainment then yes and I wouldn't find it offensive if the father offered to pay less.

How about have a chat with her? If this is as amicable as it sounds there could be a chance that reasonableness and common sense may work.. or am I being overly optimistic cause it is Friday and the weekend is just about to start??

[Scrag Meister]

Do you still have a finaincial interest in the house?

What was the maintenance requirement in the court order or from the CSA?

If you have your daughter 2-3 nights a week, then that also comes into play in the calculations. i.e. You only pay 4 or 5 sevenths of the full weekely CSA award.

Best to check with the solicitor though.