Quick question before I speak to my solicitor....

[GillsMan]

Is it really possible to have an amicable divorce? Seems like an oxymoron, if things were OK then why split?

Genuine question.

My ex-wife split in amicable circumstances a few months ago. One child and another one on the way and we split. Weird, but it happens I guess.

We're not doing it via the CSA because she'll get more from me through a private arrangement and we have more flexibility for when I'm not in a contract.

I know it sounds weird splitting up with a baby on the way after a 7 year relationship and 3.5 years of marriage, but it's definitely the right thing and we're still mates.

Though that might change if she finds out that I ploughed one of her mates shortly after we split up.

[EternalOptimist]

I'd say you should have something drawn up specifically for the mortgage to protect both your and your ex's investment in it.

Then deal with the maintenance seperately.

If you own 50% of the house, you should be paying 50% of the mortgage, regardless of who she moves in.

yes but if he wants her to buy him out, it doesnt have to be 50%

he could stop paying in now, and she could owe him x%

thats what I did with this place I am in now

[doodab]

My ex-wife split in amicable circumstances a few months ago. One child and another one on the way and we split. Weird, but it happens I guess.

We're not doing it via the CSA because she'll get more from me through a private arrangement and we have more flexibility for when I'm not in a contract.

I know it sounds weird splitting up with a baby on the way after a 7 year relationship and 3.5 years of marriage, but it's definitely the right thing and we're still mates.

Though that might change if she finds out that I ploughed one of her mates shortly after we split up.

Is it your kid?

[MaryPoppins]

My ex-wife split in amicable circumstances a few months ago. One child and another one on the way and we split. Weird, but it happens I guess.

We're not doing it via the CSA because she'll get more from me through a private arrangement and we have more flexibility for when I'm not in a contract.

I know it sounds weird splitting up with a baby on the way after a 7 year relationship and 3.5 years of marriage, but it's definitely the right thing and we're still mates.

Though that might change if she finds out that I ploughed one of her mates shortly after we split up.

I had an 'aah' face on until I read your last line. Now I have my 'what a tit' face on.

[Notascooby]

With my ex I signed the house across as part of the divorce and she gave up the rights to my pension. She has also re-married and I know that my monthly payments are keeping both of them in a house but that house is where my daughter lives so I'm not fussed.

WRT the £700 for the mortgage, if your name is still on the deed then you're really investing in YOUR property and therefore you're better off than just handing across £1400 per month, so I'd keep ssshhhh, wait until you're kid goes to uni and then cash in your investment on the basis that your ex no longer needs such a big house.

[Fishface]

I have no idea about these arrangements but can't you (both) charge the new fella rent?

or do you get free housing for shacking up with a divorcee?

Even the new guy cannot be thinking its a free ride.

[Support Monkey]

The house is still in joint names as when we divorced my wife wasn't in a position financially to buy me out. I've just had a look at the consent order and it just makes reference to a periodic payment of £1400 until my daugher reaches age 18 - the mortgage isnn't specifically mentioned even though the amount was arrived as by taking half of the mortgage and adding a payment for my daughter.

I'm thinking that I should just have a chat with the ex and if the boyfriend does move in, apply for the consent order to reduce the payment to a mutually agreed amount.

Like I said, I'm happy to pay for my daughter's and my ex's upkeep as required but I would feel uncomfortable supporting someone else....

I just bloody glad it was an amicable split - it must be a minefield when it turns nasty.

I would want something in writing with regards to your half of the house, as she could quite easily turn round and say the payment was for the child not the house , i would definately be speaking to a solicitor and her and draw up some kind of arrangement covering the house just for peace of mind regardless of who moves in

[cailin maith]

I had an 'aah' face on until I read your last line. Now I have my 'what a tit' face on.

WSS

I have no idea about these arrangements but can't you (both) charge the new fella rent?

or do you get free housing for shacking up with a divorcee?

Even the new guy cannot be thinking its a free ride.

I wish you weren't called fishface. It's very confusing for me. I see your name and think of the Prawn.

[Old Greg]

WSS



I wish you weren't called fishface. It's very confusing for me. I see your name and think of the Prawn.

But you're always thinking of the Prawn.

[cailin maith]

But you're always thinking of the Prawn.

Yum, king prawn thai curry..... oh God, I'm drooling now