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People skills and emotional intelligence
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Originally posted by Bwana View PostThe title of this thread contains the names of two excellent books I read in recent years...
1) "People Skills" by Robert Bolton, Ph.D.
2) "Emotional Intelligence" by Daniel Goleman
Both are really excellent books. I learned a lot from them and enjoyed reading them. I'd like to practice the techniques covered in "People Skills", but working in IT does not really provide much opportunity for that. I have been considereing doing some kind of voluntary part-time work that might provide suitable opportunities, but haven't yet decided on what I should do.
Cheers,
Bwana
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Today I screamed bulltulip at the PM on my project, so loud I lost my voice for a bit, after he had suggested that I don't tell him when things are going wrong.
I said sorry afterwards, then after we all had a chat I gave him a list of reasons why what he had said was bulltulip (i.e. 10 times I told you so and you ignored me) and everyone agreed with me.
Then I went back to the office and told them I am leaving at the end of March.Last edited by doodab; 28 February 2011, 21:05.While you're waiting, read the free novel we sent you. It's a Spanish story about a guy named 'Manual.'Comment
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Originally posted by doodab View PostToday I screamed bulltulip at the PM on my project, so loud I lost my voice for a bit, after he had suggested that I don't tell him when things are going wrong.
I said sorry afterwards, then after we all had a chat I gave him a list of reasons why what he had said was bulltulip (i.e. 10 times I told you so and you ignored me) and everyone agreed with me.
Then I went back to the office and told them I am leaving at the end of March.What happens in General, stays in General.You know what they say about assumptions!Comment
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Originally posted by doodab View PostToday I screamed bulltulip at the PM on my project, so loud I lost my voice for a bitPractically perfect in every way....there's a time and (more importantly) a place for malarkey.
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Originally posted by MarillionFan View PostGood man. Don't take any tulip. Remember to kill him and bury his body when you leave.While you're waiting, read the free novel we sent you. It's a Spanish story about a guy named 'Manual.'Comment
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Originally posted by suityou01 View PostPeople skills and emotional intelligence
**a load ofOriginally posted by MaryPoppinsI'd still not breastfeed a naziOriginally posted by vetranUrine is quite nourishingComment
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Originally posted by doodab View PostToday I screamed bulltulip at the PM on my project, so loud I lost my voice for a bit, after he had suggested that I don't tell him when things are going wrong.
I said sorry afterwards, then after we all had a chat I gave him a list of reasons why what he had said was bulltulip (i.e. 10 times I told you so and you ignored me) and everyone agreed with me.
Then I went back to the office and told them I am leaving at the end of March.Comment
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Originally posted by Old Greg View PostAs we're talking about people skills and emotional intelligence, you need to work on your passive aggression. Just agree politely with his suggestion. Next time things are going wrong, sit there in silence. When he asks why you're not speaking, tell him that he asked you not to say when things are going wrong. Similarly, send blank reports.
Anyway today we had a meeting about something else and at the end he offered me some "feedback" which I had a choice of listening to or not, I accepted and he gave me some valid and well judged constructive criticism regarding the things he thinks are weak points and "would ask me to improve if I were to lead part of the team in the future", the main one being that he feels I have no overview or structure to the way I manage the various subprojects that make up my remit, or at least if I do he has no view of it. We will probably have another meeting to go through the way I do things and find a way that he can have a bit more visibility. Just as soon as I have got it all out of my head into something resembling a plan.
He also gave me some very positive feedback about my strong points, which outweigh the weak ones sufficiently that he is rather unhappy I am leaving, which was already on the cards and not just because of what happened yesterday.While you're waiting, read the free novel we sent you. It's a Spanish story about a guy named 'Manual.'Comment
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