My Grandfather is in hospital and has been for the last 3 weeks. He is in good health, but has some form of Dementia. He was living with my mother and father up until 3 weeks ago when they called him an ambulance as they said he was confused and aggressive.
He had low sodium levels which were largely attributed to the confusion. These are rectified.
My mother has refused to take him back home. Also she has refused to visit him in hospital for fear of the social workers trying to get her to take him back, or being asked to fork out money for a care home.
I have taken next of kin status and have been regularly visiting, dealing with the hospital, social workers and prospective care homes. I visited no less than 7 care homes last Saturday under the pretence that he had been awarded full funding.
Then we had a meeting yesterday to discuss his ongoing care, and they were scoring him on various charts. Apparently the result of these scores means he no longer gets full funding as they deem he doesn't need it.
He is 93, paritally blind, deaf, severly cognitively impaired (their words) and can barely walk.
This means the care homes I looked at last week are all too dear, and my first choice home needs a £43 per week top up they want me to pay.
I have asked to appeal the decision, they have said they will just put him in the first home they can as they want the bed back. Their first choice was in last weeks paper with an expose on how poorly treated the "inmates" were.
I am effectively been blackmailed by them. I am quite livid.
Questions in my mind are
a) How did they change their minds over the funding?
b) Why was the process not properly explained
c) Why did they let me waste an entire Saturday looking at homes when they were all too dear, why not agreed the budget first and then give me a list of homes within that budget.
He had low sodium levels which were largely attributed to the confusion. These are rectified.
My mother has refused to take him back home. Also she has refused to visit him in hospital for fear of the social workers trying to get her to take him back, or being asked to fork out money for a care home.
I have taken next of kin status and have been regularly visiting, dealing with the hospital, social workers and prospective care homes. I visited no less than 7 care homes last Saturday under the pretence that he had been awarded full funding.
Then we had a meeting yesterday to discuss his ongoing care, and they were scoring him on various charts. Apparently the result of these scores means he no longer gets full funding as they deem he doesn't need it.
He is 93, paritally blind, deaf, severly cognitively impaired (their words) and can barely walk.
This means the care homes I looked at last week are all too dear, and my first choice home needs a £43 per week top up they want me to pay.
I have asked to appeal the decision, they have said they will just put him in the first home they can as they want the bed back. Their first choice was in last weeks paper with an expose on how poorly treated the "inmates" were.
I am effectively been blackmailed by them. I am quite livid.
Questions in my mind are
a) How did they change their minds over the funding?
b) Why was the process not properly explained
c) Why did they let me waste an entire Saturday looking at homes when they were all too dear, why not agreed the budget first and then give me a list of homes within that budget.
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