Putting the free back into freelancing

**OwlHoot** · 31 January 2010, 13:58

On the flip side though:

The Men That Don't Fit In by Robert William Service

There's a race of men that don't fit in,
A race that can't stay still;
So they break the hearts of kith and kin,
And they roam the world at will.
They range the field and they rove the flood,
And they climb the mountain's crest;
Theirs is the curse of the gypsy blood,
And they don't know how to rest.

If they just went straight they might go far;
They are strong and brave and true;
But they're always tired of the things that are,
And they want the strange and new.
They say: "Could I find my proper groove,
What a deep mark I would make!"
So they chop and change, and each fresh move
Is only a fresh mistake.

And each forgets, as he strips and runs
With a brilliant, fitful pace,
It's the steady, quiet, plodding ones
Who win in the lifelong race.
And each forgets that his youth has fled,
Forgets that his prime is past,
Till he stands one day, with a hope that's dead,
In the glare of the truth at last.

He has failed, he has failed; he has missed his chance;
He has just done things by half.
Life's been a jolly good joke on him,
And now is the time to laugh.
Ha, ha! He is one of the Legion Lost;
He was never meant to win;
He's a rolling stone, and it's bred in the bone;
He's a man who won't fit in.

**PAH** · 31 January 2010, 15:34

I suppose it boils down to permie v contractor.

I've come across many contractors who want the permie lifestyle (settled roots, family, et al) but then sacrifice their 'quality time' by having to work away from home most of the week.

I took a different approach, freelance wherever the work is and if I happen to find the right woman I'd then think about settling down in one area, buy a house and making roots.

So far 'the right woman' hasn't been right enough and maybe never will, I like the freedom too much, been too independent for too long. It's all about the state of mind, some no doubt think I'm mental. I can't be, I've not been banned on here yet for going off my trolley!

**DieScum** · 31 January 2010, 16:12

Do you never think it would be nice to have kids?

**NeverBeenNorthOfTheM25** · 31 January 2010, 16:30

Originally posted by PAH View Post

I suppose it boils down to permie v contractor.

I've come across many contractors who want the permie lifestyle (settled roots, family, et al) but then sacrifice their 'quality time' by having to work away from home most of the week.

I took a different approach, freelance wherever the work is and if I happen to find the right woman I'd then think about settling down in one area, buy a house and making roots.

So far 'the right woman' hasn't been right enough and maybe never will, I like the freedom too much, been too independent for too long. It's all about the state of mind, some no doubt think I'm mental. I can't be, I've not been banned on here yet for going off my trolley!

"So far 'the right woman' hasn't been right enough and maybe never will"

Amen brother!!!

lol .........

**threaded** · 31 January 2010, 16:40

As you get older you'll find the proportion of available women your age who are psychos increases.

I'm told that women find the same happens in the pool of single men.

There's 'miss right' and then there's 'miss right enough'. Leave it too late and you might well find yourself with a psycho who is really good at hiding it, until it is too late.

Only a gentle warning of your future.

**HairyArsedBloke** · 31 January 2010, 16:48

Originally posted by threaded View Post

As you get older you'll find the proportion of available women your age who are psychos increases.

I'm told that women find the same happens in the pool of single men.

There's 'miss right' and then there's 'miss right enough'. Leave it too late and you might well find yourself with a psycho who is really good at hiding it, until it is too late.

Only a gentle warning of your future.

You're telling me! Another thing is if you find one that is living in the tropics; the heat and bright sunlight makes them worse. ex-Mrs HAB was completely

When I look back, I think old age had made me desperate; why did I ever get involved with her.

Now I've seen the light and dress on the other side.

I recommend you, PAH, do the same. You'll be a lot happier.

**Doggy Styles** · 31 January 2010, 19:05

Originally posted by DieScum View Post

Do you never think it would be nice to have kids?

WHA ?

**OwlHoot** · 31 January 2010, 19:10

Originally posted by threaded View Post

As you get older you'll find the proportion of available women your age who are psychos increases.

I'm told that women find the same happens in the pool of single men.

There's 'miss right' and then there's 'miss right enough'. Leave it too late and you might well find yourself with a psycho who is really good at hiding it, until it is too late.

Only a gentle warning of your future.

There's a maths puzzle asking how to maximize your chances of meeting the perfect partner over time.

If memory serves, I think the correct answer is to wait exactly "e" years, ditching all comers, and than take the first person who comes along.

**NickFitz** · 31 January 2010, 19:19

Originally posted by OwlHoot View Post

There's a maths puzzle asking how to maximize your chances of meeting the perfect partner over time.

If memory serves, I think the correct answer is to wait exactly "e" years, ditching all comers, and than take the first person who comes along.

What, 2.71828 years? Bit young to be settling down isn't it

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