If you don't beat your child, then they're destined to failure

[Moscow Mule]

Bit emotive for a dull Tuesday, but there's a world of difference between a slap on the wrist, administered for chastisement when the naughty step fails to crushing of a skull for tulips and giggles.

[Troll]

I do not beat my child - so the implication is that I am not a caring parent.
What a load of utter utter bollocks.

You should always use force as a last resort- a kind of nuclear option - but you do need it in your arsenal

Issue warnings up to the final warning with a change to your voice tone to indicate that the threshold has been reached.

If the child persists then administer a sharp smack with your palm to the buttocks or exposed legs of sufficient force to cause reddening of the skin, playful taps will not suffice.

As the childs age progresses & to get the desired effect you will have to substitute a slipper for your palm.

You will not enjoy doing it but you are teaching the child that there are boundaries to their behaviour.



HTH

[Board Game Geek]

You will not enjoy doing it but you are teaching the child that there are boundaries to their behaviour.
HTH

Indeed.

Father : What's that errant son of mine been doing now ?
Mother : He's been tying the cat's legs together.
Father : Right, come here Adolf...

Oh how things could have turned out differently....

[Scary]

"I wondered then, as I wonder now, if he might not have turned out a very different boy indeed if you had administrated a few fatal beatings earlier."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBeguUvuDzs

[Troll]

Indeed.

Father : What's that errant son of mine been doing now ?
Mother : He's been tying the cat's legs together.
Father : Right, come here Adolf...

Oh how things could have turned out differently....

...his dad was known for being quick tempered and brutal -not (I hope) what I described

[EternalOptimist]

<twitch>
I was battered as a child
<twitch>
Never did ME any harm
<twitches uncontrollably>

[BlackenedBiker]

I was battered regularly as a child by my father (public schoolboy type)

It is true I am a "success".

That is because I am driven by fear, generally of failure. I find it hard to be content, I always want the next thing.

Contentment eludes me unless I work really hard at it.


The point is success doesn't equate to happiness, and that is what we should want for our children first and foremost.

Don't hit kids. (please)

[NotAllThere]

There is a difference between smacking and battering.

care enough to put personal squemishness aside give the child a smack when required to

While I don't think smacking is in anyway wrong, unfair or uncivilized, I'm pretty sure it's possible to bring up most kids to be decent without smacking. What I've found is that those parents who are most anti-smacking are also those who barely discipline their kids at all.

If you don't discipline your children (with or without smacking), then you are not caring for them. And you care more about your own feelings than the welfare of your child.

If a child has been brought up a selfish bastard, not knowing right from wrong, when they enter real life, which is unfair, nasty and doesn't owe you a living, they'll get a horrible shock.

[sasguru]

Excellent. A very eloquent post. More like this please.



Why did I bother popping into cuk today?

WGAS. Next. HTH

[Spacecadet]

If a child has been brought up a selfish bastard, not knowing right from wrong, when they enter real life, which is unfair, nasty and doesn't owe you a living, they'll get a horrible shock.

In certain lines of work that can be an advantage