HIV+ in 2008

[BrilloPad]

You must be using the correct size
http://www.avert.org/usecond.htm

ahhh yes - I always buy the elephant sized ones....

IGMC

[Bumfluff]

Yeah he was very unlucky to get it and more so as the lady in question was only his 2nd person he had sex with ! Sometimes life is a total ******* sh*t

[Bagpuss]

I think most people realise that HIV isn't an instant death sentence, and it's almost getting to the point of being less of a problem than something like diabetes. But if it was me, I'm not sure I'd want to tell too many people, anymore than I'd want to tell everybody if I had any other potentially fatal condition. I think it's slightly unreasonable to put people in the situation of having to be okay with it, or being guilty about not being okay with it.

The chances of a man catching it from one off intercourse with an infected woman in normal intercourse* are very very low, which is a fact that the scaremongerers didn't want you to know. Being uncircumsized, being female, gay, or a drug user significantly increases the risk. It's a shame but this bloke has probably got it from repeated exposure.

*caveats

I hope he is contacting the people he has been in contact with

[Moscow Mule]

Poor lad.

1/10000 chance and he got it - if you can corroborate his story.

That aside, I'm in the "tell the first aider" at work camp.

I'd be mortified if I found out I'd unwittingly infected somebody.

[Cyberman]

A close mate of mine told me this weekend he was HIV+ he found out a week ago, normal guy early 30's, never a drug user, desk job just like you or I. He is hetrosexual and recon he caught it from a one night stand he had always been safe sex but the condom came off.

I'm going to stand by him and support him but he is obviously worried about telling other friends and work, does he actually need to tell work ? Would you prefer someone you knew well to tell you they were HIV + or for you not to know.

I'm really scared for my mate and people reactions.

Who did he catch it off ? He should be recommending whoever he suspects to take an HIV test, otherwise they could continue passing it on if they remain in ignorance.
Once a person knows that they are HIV they should refrain from sex, for obvious reasons.

[Cyberman]

The chances of a man catching it from one off intercourse with an infected woman in normal intercourse* are very very low, which is a fact that the scaremongerers didn't want you to know. Being uncircumsized, being female, gay, or a drug user significantly increases the risk. It's a shame but this bloke has probably got it from repeated exposure.

*caveats

I hope he is contacting the people he has been in contact with

Yes, being circumcised reduces the risk by 50% !!

[BrilloPad]

Poor lad.

1/10000 chance and he got it - if you can corroborate his story.

That aside, I'm in the "tell the first aider" at work camp.

I'd be mortified if I found out I'd unwittingly infected somebody.

I would like to discuss the stats - I guess that would be insensitive?

[Diver]

Yes, being circumcised reduces the risk by 50% !!

Does wiping it off on a clean bit of curtain reduce the risk any?

[TimberWolf]

One of the first signs of Aids is a pounding sensation in the arse. Seriously though that's dreadful news, etc.

[PRC1964]

HIV is classified as a disability so there are very strict rules on any discrimination in the workplace.

If he is in a normal office environment I can't see any reason why he should disclose it (unless he wants to). Obviously if he is working as a doctor/dentist etc things are different.

All the best to him. I wouldn't even wish it on Peter Mandelson.

Edit: If you haven't read it already, this is worth a look: http://www.workplacelaw.net/news/display/id/13530