Is she the one?

[Lucy]

i'm 35

this one is great - however, i feel better than i ever have in my life

fitter, more capable in bed, wealthier, more stable, less miserable, etc

i don't think she has caused this - its been a 5 year effort on my part

now im getting my just deserts

do i bail out at my first sign of glory, or do i hold out?

i do love her, but ive got to look after number 1

Anything that isn't 'Yes' is 'No'.

I'm sorry if I'm coming across as being jaded, I've had three men ask, one killed himself because I said no. Current bf has been asking and I don't want to, I am unsure and I know when I find the man I want to marry I will know.

[shaunbhoy]

Anything that isn't 'Yes' is 'No'.

I'm sorry if I'm coming across as being jaded, I've had three men ask, one killed himself because I said no. Current bf has been asking and I don't want to, I am unsure and I know when I find the man I want to marry I will know.

So you are just stringing this current one along for fear he might go postal on you then Lucy? Considerate!

[Lucy]

So you are just stringing this current one along for fear he might go postal on you then Lucy? Considerate!

No. He knows how I feel.

[aussielong]

top ten

Please hurry up, i'm going to have to put my slippers on and go down to the 7/11 for another Pay-As-You-Go broadband voucher soon.

What are the questions a gentlemen should ask himself when considering marriage? Puttin aside the love bit ...?

1) Can i see myself with this woman in 10 years?
2) Do i fancy her mother? (Most women turn into their mums)
3) Does she make me laugh?
4) Has she got credit cards debts?
5) Has she got fake t1ts?
6) ...

[NotAllThere]

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i do love her, but ive got to look after number 1

Then you don't love her. Or at least, not sufficiently.

[contractor79]

hmm the way it worked in the old days had a lot going for it
no sex before marriage
so if you liked someone you got married and got on with it, worked on your problems, none of this cohabiting stuff

[Bagpuss]

Hollywood trailer voice....

Imagine a woman so attractive men would rather die than lose her. Imagine dying from a broken heart. Men kill themselves for the one they call.... Lucy. If you can't have her then someone else will. Either way it ends in death..

[aussielong]

If you have to ask yourself any questions then you obviously aren't ready to commit to her.

End it.....

Nothing lasts forever. Who goes into these things thinking "thats it forever"?

Is it more realistic to think "Yes, i love this person and will do right by them, but if a drunk school leaver offered to suck me off at some point...i might say yes"?

I joke, of course. But my point is, i feel an overwhelming sense of fatality in this decision? I take it seriously ...

[DiscoStu]

Are you happy now?

Can you see yourself being happy for as long as you're with her?

If the answer to both is yes then I think it's a fairly easy decision. Nobody can predict what's going to happen tomorrow/next week/next year etc.

Edit: Except threaded

[Bagpuss]

How would you feel if she were no longer in your life?