And to the person who emailed me last night saying they did well in court last week and found my advice useful - I say good on you. I really really hope all your access issues get resolved.
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CSA was never involved in hubby's case. Was decided all amicably at the time of divorce. Mainly because he offered a cracking deal and she knew it. I just think that maybe now, a good few years down the line, she should be willing to accept a reduced payment as their financial situation is hugely better than ours.
Not that he will ever ask because he won't rock the boat, as I said before. It's all just my opinion. And obviously I have no valid reason to get involved because they're not my kids, so I occasionally say something, but we will never row about it cos it's none of my business.
The main time that it bugs me is when she asks for more money to cover school trips. She also takes Grandma - hubby's mum - out shopping with them when the kids need stuff, knowing full well that Grandma will pay for most of it.
We have the kids for 2 nights every fortnight, because they now live about 50 miles away.Comment
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Do you currently pay more or less than (husband_net_pay * 0.2 * (6/7))? If more, then you have a case.Originally posted by ruth11 View PostCSA was never involved in hubby's case. Was decided all amicably at the time of divorce. Mainly because he offered a cracking deal and she knew it. I just think that maybe now, a good few years down the line, she should be willing to accept a reduced payment as their financial situation is hugely better than ours.
Not that he will ever ask because he won't rock the boat, as I said before. It's all just my opinion. And obviously I have no valid reason to get involved because they're not my kids, so I occasionally say something, but we will never row about it cos it's none of my business.
The main time that it bugs me is when she asks for more money to cover school trips. She also takes Grandma - hubby's mum - out shopping with them when the kids need stuff, knowing full well that Grandma will pay for most of it.
We have the kids for 2 nights every fortnight, because they now live about 50 miles away.
The current finances do not come into it. Even if you are both on benefits and she has won the lottery - it does not matter.
AFAIK she should pay everything for kids out of her share.
But she has the power. Unless the amounts involved are large I would advise to not bother. You see the kids - there are alot of men who do not.Comment
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Yes, it's more than that. But there isn't and never will be a "case". I was just wondering if I was being unreasonable in wanting her to stop taking the piss.Originally posted by BrilloPad View Post
Guess it's just life after divorce and that's that.Comment
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You are not being unreasonable. But I reckon you should leave it. It is not worth it. The kids grow up - it will not last forever.Originally posted by ruth11 View Post
The very best of luck to both of you and the kids.Comment
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I wasn't really looking to take anything further - as I said, it's none of my business. I was just wondering.
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That's not a bad idea. I might put that to hubby at some point. Thanks EO.Originally posted by EternalOptimist View PostMe and the missus are in a similar situation, so I came up with this idea. Rather than try to regulate the amount of dosh in the exes houshold ( and I can never be 100% what that is exactly) , plus bearing in mind that there is an end date, so any unfairness will end at some point, I told her that I will reduce the amount on the 16th birthday, again on the 17th and 18th , then end it a year later. One of the kids is now past 19 and a second is mostly through this cycle and it seems to have worked ok. (I actually bung the lad most of the difference directly - blooming layabout
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the third is coming up to 16 in November.
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