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Isn't that the slogan for Woman's Aid? -
Watch out BP, Dodgy will arrange a gig for you and wants more than his fair share - 20% margin anyoneOriginally posted by DodgyAgent View Post
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It is not just men that cause the breakdown, women have affairs too. However, I do not recall too many women then losing their homes, children, etc.Comment
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My husband is divorced from his first wife. He managed to agree to give her £100k from the proceeds of selling the family home, leaving him with about £20k. He pays her no maintenance. However he pays the kids maintenance.
Now, she was able to buy a nice home for the three of them without needing a mortgage (this was before the bonkers house price boom). She had been a stay-at-home wife forever. Never worked, to speak of, as far as I can tell. She trained herself up to be a hair dresser and now has her own business (she managed to do this on the money that hubby gives her - it's not reduced since). She has got together with a guy now who also has his own business. The 2 of them have bought a £250k house for them all, with no mortgage.
My husband and I have the same value house, but we have a monster mortgage on it. He still pays 25% of his monthly income to the kids.
I know it's a personal question, but I was wondering what you guys pay per month for your kids? PM me if you don't want to reply here. Or tell me to get lost if you don't want to answer. But I can't help but think that a household running 2 successful businesses, with no mortgage at all, there's absolutely NO WAY that they spend all the money from my hubby on the kids. She gets the child benefits, all that, so I just can't see it.
She also asks him to go halves whenever there's a school trip\holiday - by getting the kid to ring Dad and ask him. Bang out of order in my book - the maintenance he pays should cover that easily, but when the kid calls, he can't very well say no, can he? Or is that me being unreasonable? I don't know....
Generally speaking, things are ok between them, but hubby doesn't want to rock the boat by asking to reduce the payments, for fear of not being able to see the kids. I honestly don't think she'd do that now, the kids would kick up a stink, but I was just wondering what the consensus is?
Am I the one that's wrong for thinking the way I think?Comment
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Personally I think this bit is fair, unless the agreed maintenance was supposed to cover this.Originally posted by ruth11 View Post
If both parents can afford to, then both should pay half for school trips etc..
but not for personal holidays with mum & new bloke.Still InvoicingComment
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I have a similar puzzlement: how is it that my ex-wife has a house with little or no mortgage on it, and my partner's ex-husband has similar, but my partner and I with 2 incomes need a huge mortgage, despite the fact that my ex-wife has never earned as much as me, and my partner's ex-husband has never earned as much as her?Originally posted by ruth11 View Post
Bad planning, I suppose you could say.Comment
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I agree that it sounds fair to cover school trips etc. I can also understand the frustration though as it sound like the 25% salary maintenance is more than adequate to cover the childs needs so you can't help feel that the surplus from these payments should go towards the extras that life throws up.Originally posted by blacjac View PostComment
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When I get a divorce I,m having the car and the house plus 60k per year. But first I need to find a husband!Comment
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He told me 25% was his minimum.Originally posted by BA to the Stars View PostWatch out BP, Dodgy will arrange a gig for you and wants more than his fair share - 20% margin anyoneComment
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