NLP - BS or Psycological Skills for Influencing People?

[SueEllen]

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.

what have you been drinking?

[bogeyman]

what have you been drinking?

Pommery, apparently.

Good stuff, judging by the results.

[SueEllen]

Will NLP keep you married?

[bogeyman]

Will NLP keep you married?

I doubt it.

[BrilloPad]

Will NLP keep you married?

Only 1 thing will stop divorce. not getting married.

Luckily for most women most men are too stupid(or busy reading the sun) to see what a bad bad deal marriage is for men.

Neither of my sons will ever marry. But I will marry my daughter of to some rich idiot who she can then take to the cleaners.

[Clippy]

Only 1 thing will stop divorce. not getting married.

Neither of my sons will ever marry.

Jesus, so your sons destiny is dictated by your marriage experience.'

FFS, you really need help.

[BrilloPad]

Jesus, so your sons destiny is dictated by your marriage experience.'

FFS, you really need help.

err - and that of my daughter!

Come on - did you really believe me?

Seriously, I never discuss the divorce with the kids and I try hard to be nice about their mother (though it is hard to finf her good points - the kids always say how much they hate her).

It is my job to raise them to 18 - after that they are on their own.

I do generally promote the cause that marriage is v v v bad for men - I doubt the kids will take much notice of me.

[Diver]

err - and that of my daughter!

Come on - did you really believe me?

Seriously, I never discuss the divorce with the kids and I try hard to be nice about their mother (though it is hard to finf her good points - the kids always say how much they hate her).

It is my job to raise them to 18 - after that they are on their own.

I do generally promote the cause that marriage is v v v bad for men - I doubt the kids will take much notice of me.

Some men BP.

Mine has been wonderful. Thirty years of bliss.

[BrilloPad]

Some men BP.

Mine has been wonderful. Thirty years of bliss.

Not for your poor wife!

[BrilloPad]

I have this one:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Introducing-...614459&sr=8-16

I am now on page 100 out of 210. Very interesting. Main lessons so far :-

Focus on outcomes not problems
Ask how rather than why
Get feedback not failure
Look at possibilities not necessities
Do not use but use and

There is also stuff on mirroring and perception changing. I looked at changing my perception of my divorce - but seems my issues are too deep rooted so need to be treated as a phobia. I have to wait until chapter 8 to be cured....