Reply to: NLP - BS or Psycological Skills for Influencing People?

[BrilloPad]

I have this one:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Introducing-...614459&sr=8-16

I am now on page 100 out of 210. Very interesting. Main lessons so far :-

Focus on outcomes not problems
Ask how rather than why
Get feedback not failure
Look at possibilities not necessities
Do not use but use and

There is also stuff on mirroring and perception changing. I looked at changing my perception of my divorce - but seems my issues are too deep rooted so need to be treated as a phobia. I have to wait until chapter 8 to be cured....

[BrilloPad]

Some men BP.

Mine has been wonderful. Thirty years of bliss.

Not for your poor wife!

[Diver]

err - and that of my daughter!

Come on - did you really believe me?

Seriously, I never discuss the divorce with the kids and I try hard to be nice about their mother (though it is hard to finf her good points - the kids always say how much they hate her).

It is my job to raise them to 18 - after that they are on their own.

I do generally promote the cause that marriage is v v v bad for men - I doubt the kids will take much notice of me.

Some men BP.

Mine has been wonderful. Thirty years of bliss.

[BrilloPad]

Jesus, so your sons destiny is dictated by your marriage experience.'

FFS, you really need help.

err - and that of my daughter!

Come on - did you really believe me?

Seriously, I never discuss the divorce with the kids and I try hard to be nice about their mother (though it is hard to finf her good points - the kids always say how much they hate her).

It is my job to raise them to 18 - after that they are on their own.

I do generally promote the cause that marriage is v v v bad for men - I doubt the kids will take much notice of me.

[Clippy]

Only 1 thing will stop divorce. not getting married.

Neither of my sons will ever marry.

Jesus, so your sons destiny is dictated by your marriage experience.'

FFS, you really need help.

[BrilloPad]

Will NLP keep you married?

Only 1 thing will stop divorce. not getting married.

Luckily for most women most men are too stupid(or busy reading the sun) to see what a bad bad deal marriage is for men.

Neither of my sons will ever marry. But I will marry my daughter of to some rich idiot who she can then take to the cleaners.

[bogeyman]

Will NLP keep you married?

I doubt it.

[SueEllen]

Will NLP keep you married?

[bogeyman]

what have you been drinking?

Pommery, apparently.

Good stuff, judging by the results.

[SueEllen]

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.

what have you been drinking?

[threaded]

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.

[Clippy]

Anyone here "into" NLP ?

I'd be interested in your view as to whether its bulltulip, or a valuable people skill.

It's all a load of tosh.

You need to master the ancient arts.

These aren't the droids you are looking for...

Obi Wan 'Threaded' Kenobi

[Platypus]

I thought it might freak out AtW.

You mean now that he knows your true identity?

[bogeyman]

Nice to see bogey's got himself cleaned up at long last. Changed from a scruffy unshaven old git into a fresh-faced determined-looking member of society. Nice hat too!

I *knew* your avatar was really you !

I thought it might freak out AtW. And put that fercking pipe out!

[oracleslave]

Nice to see bogey's got himself cleaned up at long last. Changed from a scruffy unshaven old git into a fresh-faced determined-looking member of society. Nice hat too!

I *knew* your avatar was really you !

Turned avatars on briefly to have a look. Was expecting W Buffett.