investment idea

[_V_]

this sounds very harsh

whats the point in having all that money if you're on your own, sitting at home counting it

she gets a wealthier lifestyle, i get shagged regularly by a looker

You've never been married before have you?

[IR35 Avoider]

this sounds very harsh

whats the point in having all that money if you're on your own, sitting at home counting it

she gets a wealthier lifestyle, i get shagged regularly by a looker

Once you're married, you are entitled to nothing from her, but she's entitled to walk off with half your money whenever she feels like it.

If she's after a "wealthier lifestyle" and you're after a looker, the safer approach would be to not get married, live with her, (in which case you can make a binding legal agreement about what happens if/when you separate) hand her a large allowance, large enough that she can save for her future in case you dump her. That way you both know what you're getting and what you're giving and can renegotiate/walk away when no longer satisfied.

My wife-to-be moved in with me six months before we married, whenever I tried to discuss logistics with her (starting before she moved in, because I regarded this as such an important topic) she alway had a plausible reason why we couldn't discuss it just then, this procrastination continued after we were married, eventually one day she got irritated with me raising the subject and said quite bluntly she had no intention of discussing the subject as she had nothing to gain by doing so. This was perfectly true. She had moved into my house, the bills were all in my name, the only sanction I had to prevent her doing (or not doing) whatever she liked would have been to threaten her with divorce. I didn't even want any money, I just wanted her to agree that cooking was an obligation rather than something she did if she felt like it, and give that she wasn't working at the time, that it wasn't unreasonable of me to want the house not to be in more of a mess when I got home than it had been when I left. (The pre-existing mess having also been created by her.)

Ten years later, things are a lot better. Her Investment Banking career has taken off, she's contributing to costs, her savings are still only a third of mine, but with me in the process of retiring (losing my earning ability) I reckon I could threaten her with maintenance demands in order to get her to back off, if she threatened my assets in a divorce settlement. So I'm quite happy now. Though I don't think I get the quality or quantity of shagging I would if we weren't married.

I realise my description may give a bad impression of my wife, actually it should, but she is a lot better these days. We do actually both like each other.

[King Cnvt]

Once you're married, you are entitled to nothing from her, but she's entitled to walk off with half your money whenever she feels like it.

If she's after a "wealthier lifestyle" and you're after a looker, the safer approach would be to not get married, live with her, (in which case you can make a binding legal agreement about what happens if/when you separate) hand her a large allowance, large enough that she can save for her future in case you dump her. That way you both know what you're getting and what you're giving and can renegotiate/walk away when no longer satisfied.

My wife-to-be moved in with me six months before we married, whenever I tried to discuss logistics with her (starting before she moved in, because I regarded this as such an important topic) she alway had a plausible reason why we couldn't discuss it just then, this procrastination continued after we were married, eventually one day she got irritated with me raising the subject and said quite bluntly she had no intention of discussing the subject as she had nothing to gain by doing so. This was perfectly true. She had moved into my house, the bills were all in my name, the only sanction I had to prevent her doing (or not doing) whatever she liked would have been to threaten her with divorce. I didn't even want any money, I just wanted her to agree that cooking was an obligation rather than something she did if she felt like it, and give that she wasn't working at the time, that it wasn't unreasonable of me to want the house not to be in more of a mess when I got home than it had been when I left. (The pre-existing mess having also been created by her.)

Ten years later, things are a lot better. Her Investment Banking career has taken off, she's contributing to costs, her savings are still only a third of mine, but with me in the process of retiring (losing my earning ability) I reckon I could threaten her with maintenance demands in order to get her to back off, if she threatened my assets in a divorce settlement. So I'm quite happy now. Though I don't think I get the quality or quantity of shagging I would if we weren't married.

I realise my description may give a bad impression of my wife, actually it should, but she is a lot better these days. We do actually both like each other.

And they say romance is dead?

[Old Greg]

And they say romance is dead?

It's buried underneath IR35 Avoider's patio.

[IR35 Avoider]

And they say romance is dead?

It is for those who've had the proceeds of twenty years slaving away at a hot terminal confiscated by the divorce courts. And even for people like me who are merely aware that confiscation is possible. In short, it's only an option for the poor or ignorant. Or maybe for those who plan to spend most of their lives working anyway, so don't care so much if they have to start again with saving. (My plan from day one was to spend as much of my life as possible not working. It's taken somewhat longer than I expected to achieve.)

[vetran]

Problem is if IR35 avoider is unable to work and divorces the missus he is unlikely to get anything like half of current savings & earnings, the wife however is likely to get the lot especially if there are any kids involved.

I feel for you IR35, it takes a while to get them trained up and they still moan!

[brownie74]

you cannot have half

With the scientific brains of you guys surely you can find some way around not giving half your loot away? There must be a way.

[Possibly spend it before she can get it? Get a penis enlargement and plastic surgery done by the top cosmetic surgeon on Harley St. That way, you can enjoy your earnings after the divorce. The judge can't make you sell your john thomas]