Lonesome This Christmas

[BR14]

Why is being on your own at christmas any different from, say, feb 15th??
and why is it a problem?
i spend a fair bit of my time alone, wholly by choice.

[ladymuck]

Why is being on your own at christmas any different from, say, feb 15th??
and why is it a problem?
i spend a fair bit of my time alone, wholly by choice.

Feb 15th is my birthday

[OwlHoot]

Why is being on your own at christmas any different from, say, feb 15th?? and why is it a problem? ..

Presumably in practice because someone on their own at Christmas feels that everyone else is visiting their family and having a generally sociable time.

To some extent, although probably not as much as the lonely people imagine, that is true. But having a sociable time with the in laws doesn't always equate to having a good time!

[WTFH]

There's many people who would rather spend Christmas with friends rather than family, and if you have good friends who understand your circumstances, you could try asking some of them if you can join them.
But it's reliant on you having good friends that you are honest with. Some might tell you to get on your bike, but others might welcome you into their home.

[milanbenes]

this is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience

the responses in the main seem very helpful

actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun

I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children

over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend

all the best and good luck

Milan.

[Zigenare]

this is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience

the responses in the main seem very helpful

actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun

I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children

over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend

all the best and good luck

Milan.

Perhaps it was "Gentlemen's Weekends" that got him in trouble in the first instance.

Or maybe it's all complete bollocks.

[Big Blue Plymouth]

Including my other post above, have you considered therapy/counseling? Perhaps you have difficulty processing and talking about issues of the past. If you have a counselor/therapist you don't get on with, ditch them and find another. Must as with dating, it takes a while to find the right one.

I did briefly after the bust up and it was helpful.

I chose Tinder and it worked out great. Been in a new relationship for >1 year now .

Back to you though: singles holiday or cruise. I'm envious! Have fun.

EDIT: On balance, singles holiday, because there everyone is in the same position.

Glad it worked out

this is an interesting thread which presents a view on life which I have yet to experience

the responses in the main seem very helpful

actually the cruises, and singles holidays sound like fun

I have a friend/colleague who goes to Crete alone every September for two weeks of peace and quiet, and he's married with two children

over here on the continent, gentlemen's weekends seem much more popular than in the UK, where a group of old friends who also happen to be husbands and fathers go away a few times a year for a gentlemen's weekend

all the best and good luck

Milan.

Yep, cruise or US road trip in January is the plan. Weather will be crap but sometimes you can't beat the open road. Chicago to New Orleans looking good...

[Gibbon]

Actually, thinking about it, the biggest barrier from a good life to a great life is a wife!!

[xoggoth]

Actually, thinking about it, the biggest barrier from a good life to a great life is a wife!!

Hope the wives of some on here don't ever look into CUK!

[ladymuck]

Actually, thinking about it, the biggest barrier from a good life to a great life is a wife!!

Don't I know it!