Wedding Etiquette Question

[SueEllen]

I guess in the old days people wouldnt have lived together before marriage so they needed shedloads of stuff.

We lived together but still needed loads of stuff cos we were skint (21 years ago). Don't people use wedding lists these days?

Yeah they do.

Though the nice people:
1. Get married in the UK
2. Don't ask for money or gifts
3. Don't charge you to come to the wedding

This is because they know being a guest is expensive.

They then get people giving get them worthwhile gifts, or money with happiness.

[northernladyuk]

a cheque to Mr. & Mrs. Surname.
That way they have to go and open a joint bank account. Isn't that romantic?

NO! We ended up with a nightmare because of that (and it's dependent on changing name as well).

[kaiser78]

Wedding Etiquette Question - Sorted

Help needed on this one please as totally not my area of expertise…I have been invited to a wedding reception in a couple of weeks time, although I am not able to make it.

The wedding couple have asked for donations to their honeymoon next year. My query is whether it is the done thing to just enclose cash with the card, or should I write a cheque ?

All sorted - will send a card with cheque enclosed made payable to groom only, as I will send it in advance of the wedding next month.

[BrilloPad]

All sorted - will send a card with cheque enclosed made payable to groom only, as I will send it in advance of the wedding next month.

In preparation for divorce you should have sent 2 cheques for 50%. One to the couple and one to their lawyers.

[northernladuk]

NO! We ended up with a nightmare because of that (and it's dependent on changing name as well).

Only because you changed your name to Mr & Mrs Surname and pocketed the lot.

[BrilloPad]

Only because you changed your name to Mr & Mrs Surname and pocketed the lot.

"pocketed"? Is that the urban dictionary term for a sex change operation?