Wedding Etiquette Question

[mattfx]

Like you say, potential minefield. I would say whatever gift you may have thought to give them if you were to buy one, take the monetary value of that and pop it into a post card.

30 quid should do it.

[FrontEnder]

Who the **** uses cheques?

This is the 21st century, so obviously bitcoin.

[meridian]

Did this for our wedding, nearly 20 years ago now. Financed three months' honeymoon and travelled the world, much better than a matching duvet set.

It depends on the couple, but we didn't care if it was cash or cheque, and didn't keep any tally of who gave what (or even cared too much if the old aunts still insisted on giving the bed set). Anything was gratefully received with thanks.

[SueEllen]

Like you say, potential minefield. I would say whatever gift you may have thought to give them if you were to buy one, take the monetary value of that and pop it into a post card.

30 quid should do it.

I would give them a £30 Argos voucher.

Any couple who openly asks for money for themselves I don't give it to them.

However I do know people who have asked for nothing, where at least one of them comes from a cultural background where money is normally given at weddings so I happily give them money.

[BR14]

why should anyone give money to people just because they're stupid enough to get married?

[WTFH]

Was at a wedding recently where the couple are not that wealthy, but bridezilla had certain things that were required. They spent about 20k on their wedding and had nothing left for a honeymoon. But she didn’t care, she got her special day that they will be repaying for years.

Stick £20 in an envelope (or write a cheque from your company)

[northernladuk]

Did this for our wedding, nearly 20 years ago now. Financed three months' honeymoon and travelled the world, much better than a matching duvet set.

It depends on the couple, but we didn't care if it was cash or cheque, and didn't keep any tally of who gave what (or even cared too much if the old aunts still insisted on giving the bed set). Anything was gratefully received with thanks.

And that in my mind is how it should be. Bleeding millenials spoiling it innit.

[scooterscot]

A trial finders voucher or similar. No cash no cheque.

[SueEllen]

And that in my mind is how it should be. Bleeding millenials spoiling it innit.

Not necessarily one of my siblings was complaining about one of his mates getting married again

[northernladuk]

Not necessarily one of my siblings was complaining about one of his mates getting married again

Nothing wrong with getting married again, just asking for money to pay for something else they can't afford a deposit checking who's given what. Maybe I should start offering honeymoons on a lease to them.