Job offer cant decide

[TheLordDave]

Post your question on permieforum.co.uk and one of the posters northernpermieladuk will be along to let you know your not cut out to be a permie?

[Scrag Meister]

Stick with the no stress option. believe me you will be having some once the baby arrives.

Sleepless nights, sh1t on your hands, vomit down your back etc.....

Better the devil you know than the devil you don't.

[MrMarkyMark]

Sleepless nights, sh1t on your hands, vomit down your back etc.....

And those are just the good bits

[Pogle]

You have no idea how you will feel when you become a Dad. Nothing prepares you for it. Your priorities will change completely when junior arrives.
Do you get paternity leave with current employer?
Would you get paternity leave having just started in a new job, or do you have to have been there for a while before you can get it?

Congrats on the little one

[NibblyPig]

Neither, keep looking

2.5 hours is insane for a commute

[psychocandy]

2.5 hours each way commute or 1.25 each way?
First kid?

Either way, 12% extra no way - take the easy option. When baby arrives and you find out how hard it is you will be pleased you did this.

[northernladuk]

Neither, keep looking

2.5 hours is insane for a commute

I thought from the consultations we've been having that was around d or slightly below the average for a contractor? I've not worked anywhere in 15 years where I've done less than that. Even catching a tram in to Manchester takes up-to 45 mins so a large majority of people working in a city will be easily doing more that 1.5 hours. Getting any distance in an hour in rush hour is near impossible nowadays.

[MrMarkyMark]

I thought from the consultations we've been having that was around d or slightly below the average for a contractor? I've not worked anywhere in 15 years where I've done less than that. Even catching a tram in to Manchester takes up-to 45 mins so a large majority of people working in a city will be easily doing more that 1.5 hours. Getting any distance in an hour in rush hour is near impossible nowadays.

Currently a sweet 45 minutes door to door, in London.
Although for 3.5 years, 2 hours door to door, as it was the other side of London.

[original PM]

as others have said an understanding employer and flexibility on working hours is worth more than a couple of grand when you have kids - and it gets even more useful as they go to high school and start doing more out of hours activities etc

if however GF is going to be a complete stay at home mum and let you work then you may get away with it and the money is good...

however do not expect to be able to be out of the house from 6.30 am to 6.30 pm and come home to a clean house and dinner on the table - looking after kids for 12+ hours a day is the most demanding job in the world!

[ELBBUBKUNPS]

Thanks for all the feedback.

Yeah I get maternity leave in current job 2 weeks, I was up front with new job and told them about baby but that was after offer vi agent and according to agent there were fine with it not sure if they are lying or not.

That commute time I quoted was total for the day so there and back and that's on good day.

I agree best option is to stay were I am now but its hard when I also really need the extra cash the new job are offering and its guaranteed, my current role would need to increase my comp in early next year to be close, I've been told 'not to worry' about it but there is no guarantee and I could end up with no rise or bonus, I would be kicking myself then as I've walked away from around a £12k pay rise. I'm also getting to age were really compared to my peers and with my experience I should be doing a more senior role, if I stay were I am now I just can't see it happening.

I understand my priorities will change when baby turns up but I also want to make sure I'm in as a good a position as I can be to provide for it now and in the future. I hate being so money motivated but London expensive place to live, I could move out but then its longer commute again.